(Closed) Need to Vent!

posted 5 years ago in Military
Post # 3
Member
1465 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: November 1999

I am so sorry your plans got derailed because the Army decides to change them. I know it is upsetting but try to see the the big picture. No matter what, he has chosen you to marry it might be postponed right now but it will happen. Hopefully, you will be able to get married after PT and they will allow him to come for the ceremony.

I do understand how you feel we had to postpone our wedding twice because his tour had been extended. I am just glad that he is safe and sound and will be home soon. Sometimes we want to plan and have “a normal life” but we chose men that do not have the ability to make those plans because their first responsibility is to the military (Army).

The beautiful thoughts I want to share with you is that he loves you no matter how many delays you have that is not going to change. It wants to marry you just as much as you want to marry him. Your ceremony will be beautiful when it does happen because you have each other.

BIG HUG 

 

Post # 4
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3671 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: October 2013

Service before Self. I am sorry for your struggles and can completely relate! I think your safest bet is to visit him and have the wedding on the weekend. Your time together may be shorter but things can still get taken care of! My husband and I did a quick civil ceremony the day before he left. He was supposed to have a week of leave but got only four days. I am sorry for your struggles but promise you it will work out in the end! Hang in there! 

Post # 8
Member
1465 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: November 1999

Thanks for the update. I will say a prayer for him to have the strength to past the physical test so he will follow his dream of being the soldier he wants to be. I will also pray that everything you two are trying to accomplish will come to pass.

We as military wives/FI’s have the job of prayering and stay strong in the mist of adversity because we are their support if we fall apart they are always their to build us up. They know how important we are to them and if we are down they are always quick to help get us back to where we were.

He will pass the test in Jesus name!

Take care

Post # 10
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1465 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: November 1999

You are doing exactly what he needs you to do be supportive. I know you dont want him to be deployed but you also know that this is something he really wants and it would hurt him if he has done all this work and not receive his blessing of passing.

I know thinking about him being deployed doesnt make you think of rainbows and sunny skies. We have chosen to be with men who love to serve and with that comes accepting their decision. My Fiance has been in the military for 24 years and it is his life and I know that I am his support too, because he is an only child and loss both of his parents. He is my hero and I tell him everytime I talk to him that I am proud of him.

He will pass the test and will achieve the goals he set for himself and he will do well because he has you there and that gives him the strength to overcome any obstacle.

 

Post # 11
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4 posts
Wannabee
  • Wedding: March 2014

My Fiance is in the army as well, & I know exactly how you feel! The military is just one long waiting game… The waiting game is NEVER over, but all you can do is be there for him regardless of what happens! They need us, no matter how manly they try to come off, at the end of the day we are who they fall back on! Stay strong & supportive of him, & I’ll keep my fingers crossed for you all! XXXBig Hugs ๐Ÿ™‚

Post # 12
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3671 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: October 2013

@Christina0828:  Thanks for the update! I am sorry your on stand by right now…My prayers go out to you and hope everything starts moving forward. Luckily you are not alone and have many women on here that you can message to vent or ask for advice. As a soon to be milspouse you are going to be recognized as one of the strongest women there is. Not many people can be loyal while waiting for someone they love or handle the stress that comes with an LDR. I have been in your position so many times and I can tell you it gets easier or well…It doesn’t get easier BUT you get stronger! You will both be together soon and able to enjoy your time together. 

Post # 16
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1465 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: November 1999

@Christina0828:  You made complete sense. We have an important job and I cant say it will make you happy 24/7 but when you get to speak with him and he tells you how much he loves you and thanks youfor being his wife it makes it all worthwhile.

My Fiance is retiring when his tours ends and I know he has earned the right to relax and enjoy civilian life. We will always be apart of the military because a lot of his friends will still be there it is a very close knit community and sometime you can feel overwhelmed.

You will have many wonderful years together. I will be meeting my FI’s fellow soldiers for the first time when they come for the wedding. There will be sea of soldiers because 300 are invited to wedding.

 

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