(Closed) need to vent about future sister in law

posted 10 years ago in Emotional
Post # 17
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: June 2011

Glad you shared with us… I feel your pain… I have opted for a Vegas wedding, so I am able to avoid Future Sister-In-Law being at the wedding… terrible I know, but I feel it necessary.

Good Luck, and stand your ground !!! ITS YOUR DAY !!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!

Post # 18
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: April 2011

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@edgypeanuts: OMG you are highlarious!

Post # 19
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Blushing bee
  • Wedding: November 2011

You are obviously going to have a sugar-laden cake and make sure that all the food you’re serving is made with different types of nuts, right? Please say it’s so!

And I think it would also be a wonderful gesture to make your wedding pet-friendly. Invite all your friends who have pets (that they feel comfortable taking for an extended day out) to bring an extra guest or five.

Post # 20
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Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: May 2010

I think you should make it so she can’t post anything on your page. Also, she’s clearly jealous and it’s just pathetic how far she’s taking it by trying to control every aspect of your wedding. My Gmom did this same thing to me and I just smiled and nodded and continued with the plans I already made, none of which conformed to her rules.

Post # 21
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: July 2011

I think it is best if you do your best ot not only limit her acess to your facebook page but to your wedding planning as well. It sounds like she is dealing with some stuff of her own. I would also ask the caterer if they could just do a different entree for her if she is really that concerned. She might just want some extra attention right now (it seems like it to me) and if she thinks you have gone out of your way for her (to get a special meal or something) she might back down. She might also be so wrapped up in herself that will have no affect but if you want to try something that might help, it would be worht a shot. ๐Ÿ™‚

Post # 22
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: July 2011

Don’t make any changes to what you want for your wedding because of this wack job. Take what she has asked and roll with it…

–          Candy bar for the children with one bowl of sugar free candy due to her children not being able to have sugar. If they wouldn’t freak out I would serve them crackers while everyone is having cake so they don’t have a lot of sugar but they sound like they would cause a scene.

–          Ask her what foods she is not allergic to and get the crappiest thing off the list and have them serve her that as her dinner while everyone else is enjoying the delicious meal you planned.

–          Have her seated in the back away from the smelly flowers. Don’t forget to put a couple of roses on there since she is not allergic to them.

 

Since you have taken all of her instructions into consideration I think you will come out on top of the who is better competition she has going on in her head.

Post # 23
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: April 2011

Have a candy bar at your wedding.  And candy favors.  Make sure you get a double chocolate cake with sugar flowers.  Have HUGE centerpieces with all sorts of tropical flowers on every table.  Make sure and attach them to every row of chairs at the ceremony, too.  Block her from facebook.

My work here is done.

Post # 24
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Worker bee
  • Wedding: April 2013

You could always slip a bag of nuts in her bouquet! LOLOL

****Please don’t do that for real… just a comment to lighten the mood.***

Post # 25
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: April 2011

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@edgypeanuts:

My SIL’s child once told my that my dogs were shedding hair all over my floor.  I replied that she was shedding dead skin cells all over my floor, but that I still let her inside.  I don’t think she has been to my house since.  What a pity.

You’re totally my new hero.

Post # 26
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: April 2011

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@pasquel:

aw HELL no!!!  If you accomodate this PITA, the terrorists have won!

Post # 27
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: December 2010

(I haven’t read the comments, sorry…)

 

Why don’t you order the most sugary wedding cake and…… “uh-oh, I can’t believe the caterer put sugar in the cake???? ohhh i’m SOOOO Upset, i’m so sorry you won’t be able to have any of the cake, SIL!”

 

“I also can’t believe the florist got all the flowers wrong :(!!! I specifically said ONLY ROSES! and wait, what’s my dog doing here??? who unleashed him????”

๐Ÿ˜‰

Post # 28
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Honey Beekeeper
  • Wedding: June 2011

hilarious!!  I’m with the screw being the “better” person and trying to accomodate this nut case.  I’d do everything in my power to tick her off and just have myself a good laugh!  And maybe be little accomodating with an extra special diet dinner that she could eat, just cause food and nut allergies can be serious and we wouldnt want her making some crazy scene and saying how you tried to kill her with food at your wedding, which from the sounds of it, I could just see happening.

Post # 29
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: May 2011

I have to agree with the previous posters. Definitely kill her with kindness.

Kindness = cake with sugar, non-rose floral centerpieces, candy buffet, and make sure you spend at least 5 minutes cuddling with your dog after you get dressed for the wedding….LOL

Post # 30
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: August 2009

If you want to be a very nice person, you can see if she is allergic to the vegetarian option.   The caterer would probably be able to take out any nuts/ingredients she is allergic to in the veggie option for her (extra bonus – her special meal will likely be bland and terrible).  If she can’t eat sugar, then she should be used to skipping cake.  If her children cannot eat sugar, then she should feel free to bring sugar free candies or dessert to give them while the other guests are eating cake.  The venue won’t care if kids are eating outside food, as long as their meals have already been paid for.  

Oh, and while you get a lot of attention for your first child, the whole family isn’t exactly going to throw parades for subsequent children – especially if you have demonstrated absolutely no parenting skills and are raising monsters.

Post # 31
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Blushing bee
  • Wedding: October 2010

Its your day, pay her no mind and do what you are your future hubby want. It seems like shes being snarky to her own insecurities like others have said. ๐Ÿ™‚

happy planning

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