- 9 years ago
- Wedding: November 2012
I am having a really hard time with my stepmom. She keeps doing and saying rediculous things that are really starting to piss me off. She is one of those people who loves to be at the center of attention and she has been acting very selfish regarding evey wedding related thing that has gone on.
A little bit of back story. I started nursing school in september of 2010 and my dad/step mom promised me they would co-sign on a student loan after my first year so i could keep going. Fast forward to the end of the school year and my step mom had decided to quit her job and go back to school the following september. So, i had to drop out of nursing school because there was no money to go to school. Additionally since she quit her job and was going back to school they would no longer be contributing to our wedding as they had promised as well. Not really part of my main complaint with her, but i thought it would help to illustrate her personality a little better.
Actual Examples of things that have happened:
#1 At our food tasting she talked about how awesome her new school program was the whole time and even my Fiance parents commented on how it wasn’t appropriate considering the back story.
#2 When my gown arrived i asked if she and my dad would like to come so they could see it. After i put my dress on she wanted to try on gowns and ended up taking over the appointment with her dress shopping
#3 When asked for the guest list it took an extremely long time and the addresses that were blank that i requested she told me i should have gone on Canada Post to look them up.
#4 Bachelorette Party- I gave my mom the task of planning the shower and my step mom the task of planning the bachelorette. I asked for something elegant like high tea or a spa day (not your typical penises and booze) and really wanted the whole thing to be a surprise. She turned the planning process into a quest to come up with the most off the wall idea that she could think of so people would recognize her for her efforts. My mom let me know she was thinking about planning a haunted walking tour of Toronto so I had to intervene and was given a hard time for having an opinion.
#5 At the cake tasting the majority of conversation was about her job a coach bags. It was difficult to re-direct the conversation back to the cake/wedding.
#6 Hasn’t offered any meaningful help at all relating to the wedding, but wants some special duties/status on the wedding day.
#7 Was asked to bring champagne glasses for bridesmaid’s dress shopping day but forgot.
#8 Sent an unnecessary email complaining about her duties that were assigned (all i asked her to do was pick up coffee on the way to the hotel for hair and makeup) and complained that she was dissapointed in how i have handled everything.
#9 Told me at her dress shopping that this wedding was an opportunity for a do-over from her wedding to my Dad and that she wanted to make sure that she looked her best on my wedding day
#10 has taken little stabs/made fun of me regarding wanting to be the center of attention at the shower/bachelorette/wedding day
So, my question to you guys is how do i handle this moving forward. I am worried she is going to ruin my wedding day by making a scene or giving me a hard time. i am worried it is going to start WWII with her if i try and address it with her. What would you do? Am i being stupid?