- 7 years ago
So I’ve had so much drama from OTHER PEOPLE related to MY wedding, and I’m fed up to here with it!
I have not enjoyed my Bridesmaid or Best Man and my Maid/Matron of Honor flaking out on me and not being excited or happy for me. I went to so much alone that at least my Maid/Matron of Honor should have been at (like picking out my wedding dress), and almost missed out on a bach. party and bridal shower which a good friend is throwing for me with the help of some of our coworkers. My Maid/Matron of Honor actually said to me after someone finally stepped in to do her job that she’s pissed because she’s missing out on HER “bridesmaid experience”…. um, what? Everything I have invited you to you never came to, or you lied and said you were sick. What about my bridal experience??? I’ve already missed out on so much of that because of YOU!! Then I came to work tonight…
I was informed that one of my friends no longer wants to help plan my bach. party and bridal shower unless I invite everyone from our night shift crews at work. What?? Some of them aren’t even invited to the wedding! It has nothing to do with fueding crews, or chosing favorites and purposefully leaving others out. It is simply my choice. If I’m not close to them, they’re not my friend, or not invited to the wedding….they aren’t coming. Period. Why does she care who I invite to MY shower and party? She’s invited, isn’t that good enough? It’s just a wedding, and it’s just a party. People will get over it.
I asked her why she didn’t want to come anymore (after being informed by the head of planning for the events about all of this) and she said that I was playing favorites and it wasn’t fair to the other crew… not fair to them??? THIS isn’t fair to me!!! I’ve been through so much in the last year with my SO being deployed and now we get to do fun and joyous things. Can’t I just celebrate how I want to?? She broke down in tears and went on and on about someone else’s wedding she wanted to be a part of and said she’s done helping….she’s not helping anyone ever again. Dramatic much?
I actually had to sit and console her and tell her how I feel about her to smooth things over. I did NOT however tell her I would invite all these people she want’s there. I told her I have to draw the line somewhere and it is in no way a personal attack these coworkers she’s referring to. I said it’s my choice and everyone is making such a big deal out of this that it takes the fun out of it.
I really wanted to tell her to SHUT THE HELL UP and don’t come because I don’t want her there anyway, but that would make work difficult.
I’m excited for the wedding, but I just want all this bullshit to be over. It pisses me off that it’s starting to not be fun anymore. And I’m pissed at all these so-called friends who are causing problems.
Anyone else who wants to leave your vent please do so below. And supportive comments are always welcome!! Anyone who wants to tell any of us that we are bridezilla’s or just need to relax, you can just pass this post please. Thank you!