(Closed) Need to vent…am I overreacting?

posted 5 years ago in Grooms/men
Post # 2
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Sugar bee

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Honeybee2015:  oh I’d be upset if my Fiance did this crap to me. My brother who is the best man and i both said all black tux. My Fiance is wearing his summer whites and anything other than that wouldn’t look good in my opinion. The one thing i care about are my pictures and what my Bridal party looks like next to me when I am getting married so i dont think you are overreacting. I don’t want to look back at my wedding pics and be angry each time or think how ugly something looks.  At least you both came to a compromise and worked it all out. Although i might add that they may look good with just a vest and no jacket. 

  • This reply was modified 5 years, 5 months ago by  huskylove9999.
Post # 4
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: March 2015

I’d be very upset as well. First off your hubby’s ensemble is a morning coate with tails, unless you’re getting married before noon it’s not correct. Also black tuxes and a morning coat with tails…I’m sorry to say I don’t think it’s a very cohesive look. How much was the custom suit

Post # 5
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: May 2014

Not overreacting. I love the suit your fi will be wearing, but to be honest, don’t think the gm style fits with your fi’s suit. I would be livid. 

Post # 6
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: March 2015

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Honeybee2015:  can he wear the morning coat again, does he have another event coming up?

Post # 7
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Sugar bee

His suit is MAJOR BAD ASS!! No, the white does not match. He has already purchased his (and it is PHENOMENAL so I say have the groomsmen make the change, not him. Black tux is ok and will look fine if there are enough of them standing there in it. Sigh…who needs the stress…lol! Men can be such divas.

Post # 10
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: March 2015

he spent 1700, they need to wear morning coats and tails, otherwise it might look like hubby is in costume… This is one of those things that would make me angry every time I saw the pictures. I hate to say you should argue with hubby but if there is anyway to get him to fix this without a nuclear argument I would. 

Post # 11
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: March 2015

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Honeybee2015:  not at all, I’d probably have to be peeled off the ceiling…lol

Post # 12
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Newbee

Oh no! I would have reacted the same way. Another person mentioned that your Fiance custom suit is a morning suit. Even if the rest of the GMs wore the same style they would look like they were in theatrical costumes. The white jacket with black pants look is so sexy and immediately takes me the 1920’s! I’d actually nix the morning suit altogether for the wedding and have him wear it for a photo shoot. You can dress up too and incorporate the photos at your wedding.At the very least, all the guys who will be in your formal wedding portraits need to be in more similar styles even if the color is different.

Post # 13
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: May 2015

Yeah, as pps mentioned, your FIs custom suit is a morning suit and they were never worn past 5pm. They were worn at weddings, yes, but back then the vast majority of weddings were done in the morning. In the evening they wore tuxes, in black, both with and without tails. Not unlike what Leo wears in the Gatsby movie. The white suits your Fiance picked are actually closer to 20’s style evening wear, but they really should be black.

 

Post # 14
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: May 2015

Another option would be to have the ceremony performed with the guys wearing morning suits and tails and then having them all switch to tuxes with white ties in the evening! It would be a bit lavish/dramatic but if you are going for authenticity this really is what they did back in the day! Plus it would be win win as your Fiance would still get to wear his fancy suit for the main event and then everyone gets to wear tuxes in the evening. 

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