(Closed) Need to vent for a second…

posted 7 years ago in Emotional
Post # 3
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602 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: October 2011

I’m so sorry this happened to you. I would have trouble shaking it too. I know it’s tough, but try not to let this stranger’s words bring you down. Your wedding is yours, not hers, and how you choose its elements is up to you and your Fiance and should be a reflection of both of you. If you don’t want flowers, you just don’t want them and that’s fine.

Post # 4
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3520 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: March 2012

When it comes to people like that, I just think that they must be pretty miserable to say something like that to a stranger.  Imagine how many other people she says stuff to every day, and know that she’s living in her own little sad world.  Feel sorry for her, and don’t let it affect your planning.  Everything you’re describing sounds GREAT!  (((hug)))

Post # 5
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38 posts
Newbee

What a rude woman! Really extreme.

Your wedding sounds amazing; I love non-traditional weddings that are a bit different – I have been soaking up rock n roll bride for ages!

Don’t let her get to you. Some people have no imagination.

Post # 6
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10714 posts
Sugar Beekeeper
  • Wedding: June 2012

Were not using flowers either and I’ve had countless people say “what about your bouquet”. I ignore it now… and if I were you I’d ignore her too… I’m so sorry they brought you down but the good side is that the wedding is about you and your Fiance not the flowers and what everyone else thinks… It’ll be fun and memorable to you because of the things you had that made it special to the both of you. Her opinion doesn’t matter and she won’t even be there. =) 

Post # 7
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5221 posts
Bee Keeper

Some people feel like they are doing the world a favor by spouting their bits of “honesty” and feel like, “well.. at least I spoke my mind!” when in all actuality they are just plain RUDE! So sorry to hear that, it would definitely grate my nerves, too!

You have heard this 1,000 times I am sure.. but your day really is about you, your SO and the celebration of your love and life together. Who gives a crap what you hold while you’re walking down the aisle? I have been in 2 weddings in the past year where there wasn’t 1 flower present.. everyone held a feather arrangement!

Post # 8
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23 posts
Newbee
  • Wedding: November 2011

she actually sounds mentally ill, please dont let this mad woman get you down!!!!!

Post # 9
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3799 posts
Honey bee
  • Wedding: June 2012

@solsticedark: I posted about something similar last week. Someone at my FI’s work told him that he shouldn’t ‘force’ me to have a destination wedding and take away my dreams of a big, white wedding since I was a little girl. Uh…we BOTH want the destination wedding!!

I’ve learned just to ignore people and I don’t even talk about my wedding in front of others unless they are my immediate family. We are not even talking about our wedding to FI’s parents, because we don’t need to hear their negative comments and how we are bad people because we are not getting married in a church.

You handled it best by saying ‘That’s your opinion’ and walking off. This kind of crap makes me crazy! I will never understand why events pertaining to others warrant opinions from people that are not.involved.

Post # 11
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: June 2013

Ugh how terrible! Yes, I am having an off-beat wedding, too and have gotten a lot of flack for that recently. No wedding party, no flowers, under 50 people, etc. I have no idea why some people find it necessary to tell you what to you when you are planning a day around you and your FH. They have absolutely no say in that! I’m sorry this happened to you. 🙁 

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