- 4 years ago
- Wedding: March 2018
Hi Bees! Sorry I just really need to vent about my future Mother-In-Law. I am just tired of her. She is nice though but she always wants to try to “help” with planning the wedding.
My Fiance and I are getting married in 5 months and there is only few things left to do like invitations, hair and makeup trial, seating etc. My Fiance and I got engaged on October 2016. On Feb 2017, my Fiance told me that my Future Mother-In-Law had booked a cabin to stay on the wedding day. And I thought that was way too early to book and I was planning to book my family and my Fiance family in a motel. Oh well, it is really not a big problem.
I planned on buying a ring bearer pillow from online but when I went to my Future Mother-In-Law place at the end of Feb, my Future Mother-In-Law showed me that she has been making a ring bearer pillow! I thought that was nice of her but I wish she would have asked me first! My Fiance told me that she feels like she doesn’t feel involved with the wedding planning and she thinks that I can’t do everything on my own. Note that my Fiance and I are paying everything for the wedding. I am a very organised person and I don’t even feel stressed about planning the wedding. Tbh I don’t want my Future Mother-In-Law to feel stressed out so I don’t ask her to do stuff for me.
On May, she asked me to send her some photos of what color and style I want her to wear for the wedding. She also asked me some photos of what her daughter (she’s the flower girl) is going to wear. She told me that she likes hot pink color rather than a blush pink color for her dress. So I showed her some pictures and clearly she didn’t like any of the dresses for her but she said loves the flower girl dress. I told her that I want her to wear a long dress and I want her to feel comfortable. She went around some shops, I couldn’t go with her because I work on weekends. She showed me some pictures of the dresses that she tried on (which are mostly awkward midi dresses) and all them made her look like an old granny. I don’t want her to not look like the mother of the groom. I offered her that I can buy her a dress when I go overseas for my cousin’s wedding which was on July 2017. I bought my wedding dress, bridemaid dresses and my mom’s dress from overseas because they were way cheaper there and the quality is good. Anyway, she declined my offer because she said she might not like it. She bought her dress on the end of May which was $200! I think she is happy with the dress but I think that is way too expensive and she can’t really afford it so Fiance bought it for her. My mom’s dress was only $50 and it was gorgeous.
Then on July when I came back to the country, she saw my hair which I just dyed it ombre (I am going to dye it differently for my wedding). She was not happy about it and kept asking my Fiance if I am definitely going to change it back to my natural hair color for the wedding. She is against colouring hair because that is being fake.
She told me that she knows someone that can make the bouquets and boutonniere. The price was really cheap. Too cheap actually that it sounds too good to be true. She asked me to send her some pictures and so I did. Then she told me that she has been waiting for me to give her a sample fabric of the bridesmaid dresses so she can find a ribbon for the bouquets. I told her that I will just buy one from online because the colour that I want is rose gold. From then on, she keeps asking me if the ribbons has arrived yet! I told her it will take a few more weeks and the wedding is still 5 months away! I could see it in her face that she feels stressed out! My Fiance recently told me that my Future Mother-In-Law decided that she will be paying for the bouquets. I clearly told her that I will be paying for it. But I let her pay for it because she said she wants to be involved.
Later on, she found out that I haven’t given the dress to my other bridesmaid who recently gave birth. She thought I would have given it to her before she gave birth. I told her that I didn’t want to give it to her yet because I don’t want her to feel conscious whether or not she is going to fit in the dress. She sort of told me off about it. Anyway, so I gave the dress to my bridesmaid a week after she gave birth.
My Future Mother-In-Law keeps asking me if I have organised the invitations yet. She wants me to send it soon. I told her that I will be sending it 3months before the wedding. She said that her family has to travel for the wedding so they need to receive the invitations soon. Uhm like I have sent save the dates ages ago so I don’t see why they need to receive the invitations asap. She kept asking to her siblings and her eldest step daughter if they have booked their domestic flights and accommodation yet. I feel sorry for my Future Mother-In-Law siblings and her eldest step daughter! They obviously haven’t booked it yet because it is still early to book. And the price is not going to be cheaper if they have booked it really early.
So that is my vent. I know she doesn’t sound bad at all but yeah I feel like my Future Mother-In-Law is more stressed about my wedding than me! I seriously have the wedding planning all under control.