(Closed) NEED TO VENT–Terrible Etiquette–WWYD??

posted 8 years ago in Etiquette
Post # 17
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Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: August 2012

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@alexandra.l.sullivan:  Nothing wrong with a stock the bar party in lieu of something! I think the issue here is they are asking people to come to a stock the bar party so people can bring alcohol for their wedding 

 

In that case – totally rude, drink tickets would be less offensive. And I wouldn’t go to the stb thing. 

Post # 19
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Sugar Beekeeper
  • Wedding: September 2010

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@undercoverbee11:  I’ve never even heard of a “stock the bar” party. Why not just have a cash bar instead?! You’re a good friend to go to this wedding. I don’t think I would…

Post # 20
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: October 2012

Oh man  that’s a hot mess of a situation. I wouldn’t go and certainly wouldn’t help stock the bar. It seems a bit much to me that she’s invited 200 and only paying to feed 100.

Post # 21
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: July 2012

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@undercoverbee11:  I see where you are coming from, if you can’t afford to have something then you shouldn’t have it or adjust the entire wedding and cut costs elsewhere so you can have the things you want. The wedding sounds like it is going to be hot mess of entertainment. I would attend like the PP’s said just to watch, but would be pregaming and bringing my own flasks and camera. It seems silly to attend the STB party for this kind of wedding where it seems like she really isn’t thankful for guests coming to their wedding, purchasing gifts, etc if she’s showing thanks by making everyone stand and serve chicken wings with alcohol you provided to a black tie affair.

Post # 22
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: February 2012

We’re doing a “stock the bar” for a house-warming party, but I haven’t heard of one for a wedding?  I think it could be cute if it was for a backyard wedding or something casual, but that doesn’t sound like what you’re describing.  Can she even bring outside liquor to her venue?  We had to pay a lot extra for that option, so we just went ahead and are doing an open bar to save the trouble! 

Also my Dad told me when we first started wedding planning– he’s only paying for this once!  He and mom are both each others’ second marriage, which involved a JOP and some cake at my grandma’s house. 

Post # 24
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Honey Beekeeper
  • Wedding: November 1999

I am at a loss for words.  And I’d definitely go, only because I’d want to watch the chaos ensue.  But, I have a twisted sense of humor when it comes to this stuff.  This is just mind blowing!

Post # 25
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: May 2012

Yikes. Definitely not cool. I would probably offer some catered food in lieu of a gift…or maybe chair rentals lol. Or, like others said, just enjoy the spectacle 🙂

Post # 26
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: June 2012

I feel bad for the brides father…..

Post # 28
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Busy Beekeeper

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@undercoverbee11:  are you close to her at all?  If you are, I’d have a little heart to heart chat with her and maybe help her brainstorm of different ways to go about the reception planning!

Post # 30
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Honey bee
  • Wedding: July 2012 - Baltimore Museum of Industry

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@dfontaine07:  Yes, definitely bring a flask!

Still cracking up over this, 2 hours later…

And I love MichiganBride2012‘s idea about bringing mixers-ha!

Post # 31
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: June 2012

First let me say that I really hate the way women on the Bee talk about second marriages/weddings.  It is insulting and unnecessary.

That being said, I would totally to this event to mock the utter disaster it will be.  I’m all for nachos and hot wings, but not if I’m asking guests to wear formal wear.  lol. 

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