- 6 years ago
- Wedding: June 2013
So irritated…Fiance and I are having a Destination Wedding. We knew from the start that not many people would be able to make it. Two of my aunts said they couldn’t make it from the beginning. One of them said they’ll be going to Hawaii during the same timeframe (whatever…we’re not that close to that family anyway). The other aunt said she wouldn’t be able to make it because her youngest son is starting college a few months later and she & her husband are paying for everything. Both families then schedule a family cruise a few weeks before Christmas. Both are big shoppers and gamblers (comped rooms every time they come to Las Vegas).
Our wedding shower will be before we are officially married. I picked a date based off of my syllabus. Can’t do one weekend because I have a test the following Monday, can’t do 2 weekends after that because I have a term paper due that Monday. So I said we can do it the weekend in between, or the weekend after the last one. Aunts are saying they can’t because they’re working. It’s over 2.5 months away…they’re not coming to the wedding, so the least they can do is request off and go to the wedding shower. One aunt and sister want me to work around their work schedule, because apparently a party is more important than my school. If there’s this much drama, I really don’t care for a wedding shower.
FI’s cousin is supposed to be his best man. He tried to request the week off and it’s full, which would be fine with me until he threw in finances. His wife goes shopping and goes on girl’s nights at least once a month on his money. His cousin and 2 brothers are throwing the bachelor party; they’re talking about throwing it in San Francisco (we live in Las Vegas). The last B.P. his cousin went to was in San Diego, where he spent $1000+ (just a few months ago). So finances are definitely not the issue.
One of FI’s brothers won’t be going to the wedding. He says because of money and his work. Apparently they can’t get anybody else to fill in for a few days for him -_- even with a year’s notice. FI’s brother and wife both just got lasik done this past year.
I asked my 2 sisters, 2 cousins, friend, and 2 of FI’s family in-laws to be my bridesmaids 6 months ago. All said yes, knowing it was a Destination Wedding. I scheduled the wedding around their important dates (one will be graduating college; another is an elementary school teacher). So I asked them again a month ago, with January 31st as their deadline. Only 2 responded immediately (sister and friend, both MOH’s); my other sister assumed she didn’t have to give me an answer since she’s my sister. One of my cousins hasn’t said anything (just saw her this past Saturday), the other cousin just started a new job (so she gets an extended deadline). FI’s SIL texted me and said she couldn’t go. FI’s CIL said she already talked to me and she “doesn’t know what else to say”…she apparently thinks she’s special and gets no deadline. But I just heard from Fiance who heard from his cousin that she won’t be going…she hasn’t said anything to me yet.
There’s so much drama with her anyway. She was jealous because she wasn’t Maid/Matron of Honor (even though I’m not super close to her). She messaged my 2 MOH’s saying she was going to try to get me to have a local wedding instead of a Destination Wedding. She’s texted me trying to get me to consider a lake wedding in Las Vegas or a beach wedding in California (neither of which Fiance and I want). She’s also texted me with pictures of wedding themes/colors (knowing I already have colors picked out), A-line wedding dresses (already told her I want something fitted), and pointed out that I don’t have big boobs (after sending her a picture of me trying on a dress). She’s also complained about the wedding dress store, saying I must be a “baller” for trying on dresses there (Alfred Angelo)…her dress only cost $300 and she wouldn’t spend over $500 on a dress. It’s my money, my dress, my wedding…I work hard and I’ll spend my money on what I want. The dress is coming out of my hard-earned money anyway, so why does it matter to her? She’s always comparing all the other girlfriends in the group to herself, saying they need to get married already and have kids so they can “catch up” to her. Sorry, I have my bachelor’s and am working on my master’s…she on the other hand only got married because she gave birth to her first son and she’s almost 10 years older than I am.
Sorry so long…rant over =)