Post # 1
My fiance and I aren’t having a traditional wedding— it will be a city hall wedding and a series of receptions in NYC (our home base), Paris (we have a lot of friends in Europe), and Texas (my family). There are many reasons why one central wedding is not possible. Our plan is to do a vow reading at the receptions so that everyone feels included. Because of this, we’ve decided not to have a wedding party.
However, this may come across as a bit selfish, but I don’t want to miss out on having a shower or bachelorette party. Do I need to plan those all myself or do without? I would be OK without them, but I’ve been going to engagement parties, bachelorette parties, and showers for 15 years. I kind of feel like it’s my turn.
Post # 2
- Wedding: June 2015 - Missouri Valley Baptist Church
Not selfish at all! Bridal showers, bachelorette parties, etc are very exciting events that all brides look forward to! 🙂
Therefore, since you are not having a bridal party, that does make it a little difficult to have these events because typically your BM’s and Maid/Matron of Honor are suppose to throw these.
Do you have an older sister? Maybe she can host a bridal shower. Or your best friend.
My mom and husbands mom both hosted bridal showers (for just family) then my best friend (MOH) hosted one, my church hosted one and my work hosted one.
For your bach party, I would just include your girlfriends and all together plan a night out! 🙂
Post # 3
I’m not having a bridal party either. The girls who would have been in it if I were having one are throwing a shower for me next saturday. It was easy for me since they offered (and Im super introverted, ive got a very small friend group, its obvious who they are) but if I were a friend of yours and you brought it up, I’d be really excited to throw you a shower/bachelorette!
its definitely a know your crowd situation, but i’ve found that most people really want to be involved with wedding stuff in one way or another. If it’s something you really want then go ahead and ask for it, be honest, direct, and appreciative. Then if that doesn’t work, go ahead and host your own.
Post # 4
wombella2016: There is absolutely no polite way to throw a party for yourself and ask your guests to bring gifts. Showers are hosted by other people in your honor. The hosts do not have to be limited to the bridal party, but it is not up to you to approach someone and ask them to host a shower. If someone wants to host a shower, they will.
If you want a celebration, and no gifts, you can organize a luncheon or an evening out. Unlike a bachelorette, you cannot expect other people to pay your share, when you are the one issuing the invitation.
Post # 5
I’m assuming that you’re planning on a shower at only one of the 3 locations? Correct?