Post # 1
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Helper bee
Hello Bees!
So I have yet to go get fitted for my dress but I need some advice and help on what I have in mind. I’ve always loved how black wedding dresses look (if they’re done right, classy, not gothic looking etc.) Any bees out there who have worn a black wedding dress? I just love the idea but I’m already getting crap about it from a few people in my family.. -_-
Can I see pics please of your black wedding dresses!!!
Did people think you were the devil? (lol)
Was it hard to find a black wedding dress?
Thanks! 😀
Post # 3
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Bumble bee
@eeerika22: I think if you have your heart set on a black wedding stress then you should go for it. Its your wedding! I’ve never seen one…except on SYTTD, but i think you should wear whatever makes you happy 🙂
Post # 4
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Sugar Beekeeper
There are gorgeous black dresses out there! But there are also horrible goth prom dress ones.
So tread lightly!
Post # 5
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Busy bee
@eeerika22: I’ve never been to a wedding wear the bride wore a black dress, but if done right, I think they are amazing. Take a look at this string:
http://boards.weddingbee.com/topic/elegant-black-dress#axzz2lhURQFJ0
While some here are probably along the gothic line, others are absolutely GORGEOUS.
Post # 6
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Sugar bee
@eeerika22: “It’s not my style but I would support the brides choice” option because I would totally vote for that! I am indifferent about brides who wear black because even though I wouldn’t wear it I can’t say that a bride shouldn’t. A wedding dress doesn’t have to be white it is simply a dress that a bride wore to her wedding 🙂
Post # 7
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Buzzing Beekeeper
- Wedding: November 2013 - St. Augustine Beach, FL
Go big and glamorous! There are a few brides on here who have done it right. This one is gorgeous:
Post # 8
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Sugar Beekeeper
Obvioulsly, you can choose whatever you wish to wear for your wedding, and there are many beautiful, black dresses out there. However, I personally would not want to wear black for my wedding. There are so many occasions in life to which one can wear black. With an exception for special, cultural wedding traditions, I personally prefer to see brides in some shade of white, off-white, ivory, or champagne.
Post # 9
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Helper bee
@Soon2BeMrsS: Thank you!! I will deff check them out! :]
@Payless: Thank you! I don’t expect everyone in my family to like it or love it but just support it :]
@beachbride1216: I LOVE this dress, it’s exaclty what I’m going for but I havent been able to find anything like this locally!
@Brielle: You honeslty make a very valid point and I appreciate it! I love ivory or cream colored dresses as well. I haven’t Xed out white altogher so I’m deff going to try on a lot of different dresses. 🙂
Thank you everyone for your advice!! I really appreciate it!
Post # 10
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Sugar Beekeeper
@eeerika22: I’m glad to hear that you’re at least willing to consider trying on some ivory or cream-colored dresses. 🙂
When it comes to to a very important, once-in-a-lifetime event such as your wedding, I think it’s wise not only to consider what the you of today would really like to wear but also what you think your 30, 40, 50, 60, and 70+ year-old self may enjoy seeing in your wedding pictures for the rest of your life.
If you still decide that you really love the idea of wearing at least something black for your wedding, you could consider having a stunning black accessory such as a beautiful black wrap or elegant black clutch or a black sash or amazing black fabric shoes that could appear in some of your photos.
Just something to consider. 🙂
Post # 11
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Helper bee
@eeerika22: I was also planning on/strongly considering a black dress! I never wear white, I have the palest skin EVER and think I look ridiculous in it and the black dress would be so much more “me.” I actually had NO resistance (though I suppose that’s because I didn’t tell anyone other than Fiance and mom). My Fiance wants me to do whatever I want, and my mom the day I told her I was considering said she had a nightmare about that the night before, but she knows me and knew that it might happen.
Ultimately, I kept worrying that even thought I know I would LOVE my wedding pictures in a black dress and it would be gorgeous and dramatic and amzing, I just kept thinking that they wouldn’t feel like *wedding* pictures to me. Too much socitial indoctrination I guess. I agreed to try on the white dresses to see how I felt in them. If it was something that I would feel comfortable in, then that could be on the table, but I was never ever going to do it if I was uncomfortable. I don’t think I would have regretted wearing it or the picture per say, but like I said, I think I somewhat would have missed having that “classic” wedding picture.
I would jsut say that I agree with @Brielle: make sure you won’t be unhappy with your decision later. And if other things are on the table– try them all! See what you FEEL like a bride in! (Or at least feel like how you want to feel on your wedding day!)
Post # 12
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Helper bee
Also! I have been going through this with my photographer for e-pics! He encourages 1) wearing bright colors and 2) wearing clothes you’re comfortable in/being yourself. And 1 and 2 MAJORLY conflict for me!
I was all torn honestly, until I saw other e-pics where she had a black dress and he had a black suit, when they are close together, in some pics the black loses all its depth and just runs into each other and it does not look good as other picture where they are not in the same color!
So I am working to incorporate some lighter colors in with our black/dark colored stuff to make the e-pics look good.
I would REALLY worry about having an all black wedding dress like the GORGEOUS one that @beachbride1216: posted. I LOVE that, but put a groom in black suit/tux next to it…. the picture won’t be nearly as dramatic or contrasting as it would with the black and the white. I’m sure an awesome photographer could make it work well if you have your heart set on it, but IMO it seems like it might be harder to achieve depth and contrast in the B&G pictures if they are both in all black.
Something else to consider. 🙂
Post # 13
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Helper bee
@Eradicatereality: Thank you for your advice!! You also brought up a lot of good ponits and things to consider. Honeslty I know it will come down to when I physically see myself in a dress and how I feel about it, if I can see myfself walking down the ile in it. I LOVE the idea of a black dress but one thing that Fiance brought up is the thought of feeling “cheated” later down the road out of feeling like your “classic bride.”
I know deff I cant decide truly until I try on all my options and consider all choices. Thinking about the contrast in pictures as well is another good point you made, one thing that I’m happy about is Fiance wants to make sure noone else is wearing a lot of black if I wear a black dress. Our wedding colors are deep purple, dark marron and charcoal gray so we were thinking of Fiance wearing charcoal gray pants, dark marron button up with a black vest or suspenders. Bridesmaid or Best Man and groomsman in something similar, MOA and bridemaids in deep purple dresses.
My mom has given me a hard time about it and its been bugging me. My Fiance wants me to do whatever I want or feel is right but my mom just keeps making her jokes or settle hints about how she doesnt like the idea of a black dress. I wear a lot of black as it is now and I love it but my mom is very traditional. She hasn’t said NO WAY YOU”RE NOT WEARING BLACK but I would feel better if she just supported the idea more. Maybe if she see’s me in a nice classy black wedding dress she will have a change of heart.
We will see!! I will post pics once I start trying dresses on :]
Thank you ladies for all your advice and input!
Post # 14
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Worker bee
I wore black and don’t regret it one bit. I loved my dress. I didn’t rule out white and in fact had a cream tea length for later, but I fell in love with the black dress. And while I didn’t rule out white, the black happened to be the most beautiful and extravagant dress for me. Personaly, I don’t wear big fancy ballgowns often so I looked at the opportunity to wear my favorite option, regardless of color. Who knows, perhaps if I do get a chance to wear a big puffy gown I may pick white the next time. A wedding sure isn’t the only time I have seen a spectacular white gown. Also, I don’t feel as if I will regret my decision because no matter what, the day and my choices were reflective of what we were celebrating that day. It was a great celebration and so I just can’t see having a regret based on the color of my dress. The only decision that would be worth fretting over would be if I married the wrong person. Thankfully that isn’t a possibility as I married an awesome guy.
Post # 15
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Sugar bee
Exactly what you say – classy and not gothic. I would have totally done a black gown, except my mother would have disowned me!
This is one of my favourites (Vera Wang):
Post # 16
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Buzzing bee
@peonyinparis: omg, that dress, that veil! gorgeous.
