- 3 years ago
Since there isn’t a dating forum here I’m posting this here, it’s a bit trivial but I’d still love to hear your advice. I’ve been on this forum for a while, I left my boyfriend 9 months ago and ever since I haven’t really dated. Soooo I’ve been in Tinder for a few months and I finally had my first Tinder date ever (I never wanted to meet anyone because I didn’t think it leads anywhere) last Tuesday (7 days ago) and it was actually pretty amazing. He was the one messaging me first and suggesting to go on a date and I accepted because I found him cute and interesting. The guy was attractive and we hit it off- I thought we’d be in that bar for like an hour or two, instead we stayed there til it closed, a total of almost 6 hours. If that even matters, I’m 28 and he’s 32.
I really liked him, and I really felt like he likes me too, he even walked me home (or city isn’t that big) and didn’t even try to get into my pants, we just talked a bit more in front of my door and then we kissed for a while and I entered my apt. He asked me out again the same night, but we didn’t pick a date or anything yet. The next morning he messaged me again saying that he had a great time and would like to see me again, and we talked a bit and he asked me if I wanna meet on the weekend. I told him I’m free on Saturday and he said cool, we can go have dinner and/or drinks. He also messaged me Friday (I literally never messaged him first, I think the guy has to chase the girl a bit in the beginning), but then Saturday I didn’t get anything til 5pm (and he hadn’t suggested where we meet Saturday night, so I was still waiting for his message).
Well, he ditched me. He basically apologized a few times and said he cannot meet me tonight, that he’s really busy with his studies (he’s doing an MBA and works full time at the same time, they even send him abroad for a day or two every few weeks, like this week for example he had to go abroad for two days), and I was a bit disappointed because he didn’t even suggest another date (He just said ‘I’d like to see you soon’). Sunday I heard nothing from him, that was the first day he didn’t message me at all since we started talking on Tinder. Then he messaged me Monday night (yesterday) again, asking how I am and what I’m doing, and we talked a bit then and today as well. Today, he asked me when he can see me. I told him I could meet Thursday. He told me hThursday he has classes til late but that he could try to see me for a little bit. I told him tomorrow (Wednesday) I could meet too if I manage to do some of my calls earlier (I’m selfemployed and have to call clients in another country), but that I will let him know tomorrow. He said great, that would probably work better for him.
Ok bees, I know this sounds trivial but I’d still like to hear your opinion. I haven’t dated anyone in a really long time (I was with my ex for four years and since we broke up and haven’t really dated anyone) and right now I’m not really sure if he’s really interested and worth it or not. When we met for the first time a week ago we really hit it off and he seems really interested in me, and he seemed like a decent guy who doesn’t try to have sex with me that first night. But then at the same time, he cancelled our Saturday date last minute and didn’t reschedule, and also didn’t message me til yesterday. Obviously I didn’t complain at all and pretended that I’m super understanding, but I’m a bit confused tbh. The guys I’ve dated before were usually super into me from the first moment they met me, and wanted to see me all the time. But I know I cannot compare ex-relationships to every new guy I meet.
So what do you girls think honestly? Should I give him another chance and suggest to meet tomorrow (remember, I told him that I’ll tell him tomorrow if I actually have time) or do you think he’s not worth it since I haven’t even seen him in an entire week (even though he messaged me every day minus Sunday)? What would you do in my shoes? I don’t wanna waste my time honestly, even though I do like him and want to see him again, but I’m not looking for a random hook up. Preferably we would go on a couple of more dates (and not just once a week hopefully) and see where this is going.
Thanks for any advice!!