Post # 1
My photographer wants my fiance and I to take pictures BEFORE our wedding. He said it is better because the cocktail hour is not long enough and that way we can have alot of pictures. He also said its better because my hair and makeup and flowers are fresh. I dont know what to do. I understand his points but I believe that your groom should see you when you first walk down that aisle… Thats how I want it. Otherwise I feel like im walking down the aisle and its not a big deal to him and its like I know a dirty little secret (that hes already seen me). Please give me your honest opinions on this. And is this common?
Post # 3
My husband and I did this. It gave us time to be alone before the wedding (you will not have free time to be together afterward) and the walk down the aisle was still so special. All I saw was him and I couldn’t even hear the music because my heart was pounding so fast.
Post # 4
The first look is becoming more common with couples. However, I am also of the opinion that I want to be walking down the aisle when my FI first sees me on our wedding day. At the end of the day, you are paying your photographer and if you don’t want to do the first look photos, then you don’t have to. Explain what you want and have that as part of your agreement.
Post # 5
I think it is a very good idea and we will be doing first look and prewedding shots when we are both fresh and not so tired. I know it will still be special when I walk up the aisle.
Post # 6
We are doing a first look, and all of our bridal party pics before the ceremony. My dad thought we would “ruin the aisle moment” but we don’t think it is such a big deal, and our priority was getting the best pictures. The only pics we will take during cocktail hour are the family pictures (and we have only allotted 30 mins for them). I want to look the best I can in the pictures, and I think that doing them before the ceremony will ensure my hair and makeup look their best. Plus once we spend that couple hours together we will be more relaxed during the actual ceremony!
Post # 7
I think you should stick with what you want to do!
Post # 8
There “are” advantages, however, you don’t HAVE to do that!
When a couple doesn’t want to do a first look, usually we do bride with bridesmaids and then groom with groomsmen before the wedding.Then, we just have “family formal” shots, entire bridal party, and bride and groom.
Your photographer should be able to work with whatever YOU want to do. First looks have only started becoming ‘popular’ within the past 1-1.5 years. Cocktail hours and other things have been the timeline for generations 😉
Do what you and your FI want to do.
Post # 9
We are also taking some pics before the ceremony but that’s because we don’t mind doing first look ahead of time and also it is more important to us to spend more time with our guests during the cocktail hour (hopefully!)….BUT if you really feel strongly that you want him to see you first when you walk down the aisle, stick to that and just let your photographer know that’s how you want it. I’ve noticed a lot of photographers try to gently encourage taking pics beforehand because it makes their job a little easier, of course, and you can get more pics BUT the bottom line is that you need to do what you want…it’s your day! 🙂
Post # 10
I’ve always wanted to do a first look because I want awesome pictures and if I am paying a couple of thousand for a photographer I want my money’s worth! I don’t want to have to rush through pictures, look a mess after the ceremony, or make my guests wait to eat dinner. Also, in Jewish culture the bride and groom always see each other before the ceremony for the signing of the Ketubah and the unveling.
However, I don’t think you should do one if you don’t want to. You shouldn’t let someone else pressure you into a choice you don’t want!
PS. I didn’t vote in your poll becuase what I would choose is different than what I think is best for you 🙂
Post # 11
I voted for not doing the before ceremony pics, because it sounds like that is really important to you. It was to me too, so we are not doing a first look. The first time I’ll see my FI is when I walk down the aisle, and that is going to be a really special moment for both of us.
That being said, it is becoming very common to do the first look before the wedding, and take pictures beforehand, especially if you have just a short amount of time between the ceremony and reception. I have a gap of 3 hours, so after the receiving line, we have 2 hours to take pics before the reception starts to take photos. I’m not sure how pictures will work if you don’t have that gap.
Maybe you can plan on doing any photos that don’t involve you seeing your groom (like groom alone, bride alone, bride with her family, groom with his family, girls in the bridal party, boys in the bridal party) beforehand to get those out of the way, then do any photos involving both of you during the cocktail hour?
Post # 12
We are doing it, but you don’t HAVE to. I totally understand having your first look as you are walking down the isle. But, your photographer is right, you do get more picture time and you don’t have to make your guests wait. I am looking forward to being able to enjoy part of our cocktail hour.
Post # 13
I like you was initially very adament about not wanting my FI to see me until I walked down the aisle. That was the way I’d always pictured it and I thought a first look would spoil “the moment”.
The more and more I thought about it though and looked at pictures of other people’s first looks compared to post-ceremony, the first look really seems like the best option. You still get that “moment” when your groom sees you for the first time and the walk down the aisle is no less special (and certainly no “dirty little secret”). Despite my initial resistance and opposition to it, I’m now really, really looking forward to do ing my first look pictures.
I’d really give it some more thought if I were you and look at pictures from weddings done both ways (you get a lot more pictures it seems doing a first look – so much more time and not rushed). You still have a year to decide – don’t just count it out yet.
Post # 14
Yeah I am just a little confused I guess…… We are only having an hour long cocktail hour. I had mentioned to the photographer that maybe we could do all the pics of us with our families before and then do the group and us pics during the cocktail hour but he is really pushing for the before ceremony pics… I am so confused.
Post # 15
We did this too. We took photos for THREE hours before the ceremony. Our firtst look was the only alone time we had all day, and it was intensely sepcial for us. Plus we got to enjoy the cocktail hour and all its awesome food and drink with the guests and werent rushed at all. It was a huge plus for us, but you have to decide if you want to see each other before the ceremony.
Post # 16
What about the photo of your groom’s face when you walk down the aisle? They cant capture it now…