@ShaunaBrege: just make sure you have clearly communicated with your wedding party, key players, and vendors about the million little details, timelines, locations, responsibilities and tasks…. before the wedding day.
I made up timelines in excel, using clip art, and send the pdfs to everyone a week before. I talked with my bridesmaids about what I wanted/needed them to do day-of, and also send a list to everyone. still, a few little things were missed, but the big stuff was taken care of.
i forgot to discuss with my ushers (my FI’s Dad and Uncle) about what we needed them to do. i left it in her hands to talk to them, since I thought she would see them at the hotel when they were getting ready. but of course, the Men were getting ready in a different room, and she barely got to tell them that they needed to show the guests to their seats.
however, they took it upon themselves to greet the guests at the entrance, so they were no where near the seating, and one of my ‘maids was running around trying to find the ushers since everyone was mingling and not sitting! finally she just loudly announced that people should find a seat. Sadly, her grandparents were not informed that they had two reserved seats in the front row. 🙁
also, no one explained to the guests on the aisle seats how to use the petal cones. remember, us Brides know things that regular folk do not. So almost no one knew to empty the petals into your hand and then toss them at us as we walked back down the aisle. People were trying to throw them at us with the cone, and one taller guy just turned it upside down and emptied it close to my head as I walked past. It was kinda funny, but we didn’t get the effect I wanted for the photos of our recessional with the petal toss.
these are all silly little details, and it’s most important to roll with things. just make lots of lists of what you need to bring, and make sure everyone knows what to do, so you can just relax and enjoy your wedding day!
oh, and decorate the venue a day early!! and I also highly recommend doing a first look and formals before the ceremony… so you can just start to enjoy the cocktail hour with all your guests… but that’s just me.