Post # 1
The best man dropped out of the wedding due to health issues; he’s having tests on the 28th and has to be hospitalized for 72 hours beforehand.
He had warned FH about this, but from what I knew, Best Man would try and reschedule the tests. We learned about his final decision via Twitter a few hours ago. TWITTER! (And not even in a direct message, either.)
Having been a veteran of health issues myself, I can understand and empathize with getting tests done. But I am furious at him for not keeping us in the loop. He did nothing for FH during the wedding process; all we were asking him to do was to stand up with FH during the 15 minute ceremony.
Am I overreacting?
Post # 3
I think you are frustrated and concerned about your best man not being there (and his health). This sounds like one of those things that is initially stressful (understandable considering how close you are to the wedding), but will quickly dissipate, especially since his health issues must be fairly serious for a 3 day hospitalization. He might not have been able to change the test dates vis-a-vis the hospital. Did you and FH have a back-up plan?
I would be careful to keep this in perspective: natural to be frustrated and perhaps a small scramble to fill his spot, but you knew this was a possibility and his health is paramount. Good luck!
Post # 4
Did his twitter update say “I have to go in for tests on the 28th” or did it say “I decided not to be in GlassSlipper’s bridal party”? If it’s the first, then he might be planning to tell you about his decision next time he sees you, considering he just made the decision a few hours ago. If it’s the second, then it sounds more like he’s relying on Twitter to communicate with you and should have told you in person.
We don’t know what the reason is that he didn’t reschedule his test. Maybe the next available appointment was several months later, or maybe there are other reasons. I wouldn’t come to conclusions if I were you. Just mention to him that you saw his Twitter post and wanted to know if that means he’s not going to stand up in your wedding or what.
Post # 5
@MsMoonlight – No back-up plan. I would consider Best Man to be FH’s best friend and FH wanted him in the wedding. (FH could be working a little harder to find a replacement, imo.) Thank you for the gentle reminder to keep it in perspective.
@JenBrander – His Twitter message was a reply to his sister saying that he wasn’t going to the wedding at all- we were out of the loop entirely.
I think FH e-mailed Best Man. He doesn’t want to talk about it when I bring it up.
Post # 6
It’ll work out. alright. Your FH is in charge of finding a replacement, so try not to worry. If you’re coordinating the clothing or need the name for the program, give him a deadline and tell him what the back up plan is if he hasn’t picked someone (you’ll list on of the groomsmen as his best man, or whatever).