Post # 16
loverofcatsandwine: First thing first: figure out what “all this shit” really is. I bet you’ll find out you don’t actually want or need most of it. The only thing actually required is a marriage license (usually <$100) and your partner (usually free of charge).
You can have a barbecue in the park with 20 people, a boom box and a couple Costco cakes and you will be just as married as someone who had a $110k destination weekend wedding with her 300 closest friends.
What makes a wedding to you, and what experience do you want to prioritize?
Post # 17
I am a recent graduate & my fiance is in the military. I am fortunate enough to live with my parents, so with each paycheck I save $500. I have been doing this for about a year, & will continue until our wedding in March. Fiance also has been saving whatever he can. You have to force yourself to save & not spend so much on things like clothes (which was a hugeee problem of mine!), food, entertainment. It requires some sacrifices for sure. But I am having about a $6.5-7k wedding, 100 guests (only close friends/family), afternoon, brunch wedding. No dancing, no alcohol (not my families’ style anyway). It’s just going to be like a brunch with lawn games and violins playing in the background. Like a garden party. Formal, night weddings get soooo expensive! Doing other things like making desserts for dessert bar myself, possibly arranging bouquets myself, etc. It can be done.