(Closed) Needing Advice from the bees!

posted 7 years ago in Reception
Post # 3
6998 posts
Busy Beekeeper
  • Wedding: February 2011

i am seriously inlove with this idea! I think you would be fine with having hightop tables and chairs for people to sit but i dont think you need a table setting for everyone. I mean it is NYE and the reception starts later so i think everyone will be fine standing – thats exactly what would happen at any house party right?

are you hiriing a DJ? i would hope most people would be up and about dancing and socializing anyway.

I love the idea of black tie weddings or parties, im always looking for an excuse to get dressed up.

Id stick to your vision


Post # 4
3572 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: September 2011

I hate to say it, but I think your mom is right.  This is not enough chairs.  Is there going to be dancing?  Also, I understand people groaning about black tie.  Normally it is an inconvenience because a lot of people need to rent them, but now they will have to arrange and rent that during the holidays, which is a busy time for people.  Also, I’m not sure I would be thrilled to wear black tie if there was only going to be hors d’oeuvres.

Post # 5
2018 posts
Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: December 2010

I think the space is fab and so is your idea.  But I do think you should have enough (or nearly enough) seating for all.  It doesn’t have to be tables but maybe some high stools or have some loungy type ottomans pushed against the walls to maximize space and then they can double as tables and chairs.

Post # 6
6 posts
  • Wedding: November 2010


Um, if I went to your wedding and didn’t have anywhere to sit I’d be pretty pissed.  ETA – especially if I showed up in black tie appropriate attire.

Post # 7
7975 posts
Bumble Beekeeper

I would think you’d want chairs for more than 40-50% of your guests! People may be moving about and dancing, but it’s nice to have somewhere to set your purse/wrap while you’re dancing, and to be guaranteed a seat if you’re tired. Are there other seating options in addition to the high tops, like lounge-y spaces with couches?

Post # 8
2891 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: July 2013

It depends on the age of your crowd. If it is mostly an over 40 crowd then yes it is rude. If it is a mostly under 30 crowd it is more acceptable. People do like to sit down somewhere though so maybe a bench or two?

Post # 9
3374 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: October 2011

I love the black tie idea! I would totally have a black tie wedding if more of my guests owned tuxes. (my family does, but FI’s didn’t)

Sorry, but from 8-midnight I would need to sit down. I would probably wear high heels and would be in pain before then. People complained at the last wedding I went to that there weren’t seats during the 1 hour cocktail hour. What about scattering tables throughout rooms?

Post # 11
7431 posts
Busy Beekeeper
  • Wedding: October 2009

@futuremrssendek: I LOVE this idea, and would love to come!! 😉

I do think having more areas to sit is also a good idea, even if its just ottomans, chairs, whatever.

Post # 12
161 posts
Blushing bee
  • Wedding: October 2011

Are you having the event on the first floor only?  One way to get more “seating” areas would be to move portions of the party to other rooms/floors of the mansion.  If you did different HDs or drinks in rooms upstairs or other areas of the hosue you could have couches, chairs, ottomans, etc there as well.

PS I LOVE NYE weddings and think they are always very elegant, romatic and FUN!

Post # 13
328 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: November 2012

I think this is a great idea, except I think you should definitely have enough seating for your older guests (i.e., grandma). Also, when I dress up like that (which I love) my shoes are often really uncomfortable! I would think the ladies would like an opportunity to sit down without having to scavenge for a seat. Love the idea of a lounge. If I’m dancing, sometimes I need a break!

That staircase looks AWESOME for pictures.

Post # 14
192 posts
Blushing bee
  • Wedding: June 2011

As long as you make sure to have lots of places for people to sit, you should be okay, even if they are not chairs (benches, the staircase, patio chairs outside, etc.).
The worst wedding I ever attended was similar to yours (fancy, evening standing-only reception with hd’s, etc.). Unfortunately, the majority of the guests were either over the age of 60, or heavily pregnant (no joke – there were at least a dozen girls about 8 months along … including both of her bridesmaids). There were not enough seats for those that desparately needed to have a sit down, and for the rest of us – the entire night was far too long to be standing without a break, and we certainly didn’t feel right stealing a pregnant or elderly person’s seat! The majority left the party before the dancing even started …

Post # 15
4824 posts
Honey bee

We had something similar and it worked great. I would have extra chairs in places even without tables though so there are still extra seats.  

I would also have a designated place for coats so people dont “claim” a seat and not allow others to use it because their coat is on it, but they arent sitting there.

EDIT- we had seats at tables for about 60% of the total number of people 

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