(Closed) Needing ME time, Just an hour or two!

posted 6 years ago in Relationships
Post # 3
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: September 2013

Maybe instead of coming right home from work, you can just give him a call/text and let him know you’re stopping by the mall.

This is a pretty natural feeling. Fiance and I don’t live together yet, but I know that once we do we will need our alone time. He’s busy tonight and even though we don’t see eachother all that often, I’m still relishing my Friday night of TLC/Slice shows and bubble baths. You don’t have to tell your fiancé you need the time away from him. Just take the time. He’ll be better off for it, because you’re more likely to come back refreshed and full of love for him 🙂 

Post # 4
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: September 2017

@grapefruitgal:  I agree with this – you don’t have to explain to him that you need the time, just take it (unless he starts complaining or resisting your efforts to take the time for yourself – then I guess maybe you’d have to have a talk).  Just do what you want to do after work and text him to let him know you’re doing some shopping, getting your nails done, etc., and will be home in a few hours.

Post # 5
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Sugar Beekeeper
  • Wedding: September 2010

How about having an honest conversation with him about what you need? I think not actually being upfront about it is a passive-agressive cop-out, honestly. Relationships can’t work if your partner doesn’t learn how to read you – and this is a really important thing. Him knowing when to give you space and when it’s ok not to is critical!!

For example, when I feel like you do, I gently mention it to him. If there’s a weekend coming up, he makes plans with some friends for an evening so I can have some time to myself. And vice versa. If he needs time, I make plans. It’s about respecting him enough to be honest, and about being honest in a loving way.

Post # 7
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: June 2013

I’m the same way. I think it’s how we’re wired… not a bad thing! I need space from Darling Husband frequently. Due to stress or whatever is going on. 

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