- 4 years ago
It’s nice to meet so many lovely people here and to read their experiences – it’s reassuring to know that I’m not the only one alone going through this :).
I’m pretty new to the boards and have been a long-time stalker – especially when my SO came forward in telling me to start looking at rings 3 months back.
And I did act on that request. But now it seems as though the whole ring-finding process has been put on the backburner for him. As per his request to look for vendors (while he’s doing literally nothing on his part to research), I would send him interesting local vendors to check out. His responses would vary from – ok cool or “there are more important thigns to focus on…” Lately he told me that he was feeling overwhelmed with me sending him stuff on a “daily basis” – which I really haven’t even been doing – and I brought up e-mail evidence of this where I have only sent him 2 e-mails. Only two in the past month.
He then told me he wanted to wait to speak with a guy friend of his who got engaged recently to get an idea on how much he should spend on the ring, before actually looking at rings. He waited an entire month for this meeting, and would groan if I even suggested looking at rings.
So the time has come and he tells me that said friend wasn’t helpful and couldn’t provide anything other than what I had been telling him all along – ring-shopping is unique to the couple, there is no set price or expectation. We waited an entire freaking month for something I had been telling him all along. I finally blew up at him at this – I really just feel like giving up. He keeps telling me he wants to marry me, and that he wants to have a family. In the past he would tell me that we would get engaged before 2014, but I’m highly doubting this now.
I’m just so frustrated and angry, bees. I feel like such a fool for searching in the first place -I feel like I just jinxed it for myself. It’s also making me irritable towards him, and he would get angry at me for treating him like the bad guy.
Sorry for the incoherent blurb of text, ladies. Just needed to vent this. Thanks for reading :).