Post # 1
My fiance and I cannot seem to decide on what type of wedding to have. we would both like to have a simple wedding, with no dinner. But the problem is I would also like to have a dance. The confusion comes with finding a time to have the ceremony and dance, without having a dinner, but then still having time for photos without leaving guests out to hang on their own for hours.
Post # 3
May I ask why you don’t want to have a dinner? Is it money, or is it some other reason? And are you really set on no dinner at all- even appetizers? A cocktail reception with just appetizers can be very financially feasible, if money if the issue.
Post # 4
@ecky.11: What about having a cocktail or dessert reception?
Post # 5
a little bit of money issue, but mostly we would like to do s omething a little more unique. I have considered a cocktail reception, generally that is just later at night which makes it difficult to have pictures. I do not want pictures to be taken before the wedding.
Post # 6
Ideally we wanted a dessert reception immediately following the reception, but then it made difficult for guests between a dessert reception and having a dance because of too much time between.
Post # 7
Well, you could do what a lot of people do, which is to have your ceremony, then let your guests start having appetizers and drinks for an hour while you get your pictures taken, and then you come to the reception for more finger foods and dancing.
That doesn’t have to be late at night (ours starts at 5 PM, but there is going to be A LOT of food there) and in June, you’re going to have plenty of daylight for picture taking even in the evening!
I think you can figure out ways to make your day unique without having your guests wonder where the heck the food is. People will get VERY cranky fast if you don’t feed them, especially since almost everybody expects food at a wedding… and many of them might leave.
Post # 8
You might be able to do a day after session with your photographer to get the pictures of just the two of you. We had the same thoughts – don’t want to see each other beforehand, don’t want people waiting around after the ceremony. So we did pics before the ceremony that were Bridesmaid or Best Man and Groomsmen and bride or groom and then quick family and whole group after the ceremony. We did ours then alone after it was all over and it went really well — it was so nice and relaxed because we weren’t worried about a schedule and other people. So that is another possibility 🙂
Post # 9
Cocktail hour right after the ceremony will allow you to get your pics done. The hour can have little snacks like cheese and crackers and fruit and OJ to stay on budget. Guests can have a little somthing to munch on while they wait.
And a cocktail reception does not have to be late… if you have it around what would be considered ‘dinner time’, just let your guests know ahead of time of the invitations what to expect at the reception.
Post # 10
The problem with having no dinner around dinner time is that people will have no way to feed themselves when they do get hungry.
Are you set on having pictures taken after the ceremony? Do you want pictures outside in the sun?