(Closed) Needy Friend Help

posted 6 years ago in Relationships
Post # 3
Hostess
18643 posts
Honey Beekeeper
  • Wedding: June 2009

Oh man that is rough.  I had a friend like that who I used to talk to every day at lunch.  I eneded up having to say no as well because I didn’t have time to talk to her every day and basically listen to her complain about things when I couldn’t get a word in edgewise.

You really just need to be firm with her.  Honestly, it sounds like she needs help since her other friends don’t do anything with her.

Post # 5
Member
333 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: September 2014

I don’t know the rest of the story, but obviously, yes as previous poster said, be firm. You can feel badly for her, but you can’t allow her to overcome your own life. You are busy, happy, and need to be allowed to continue to be so.

If it’s easier, try to schedule an amount of time that is reasonable to you so that you do not lose touch, are still able to be there for your friend. You can only control you. So if talking once a week is what you can do, make that clear.

Again, I don’t know the story so I don’t know how willing she may be to try this, but encourage her to try a social event, like a hiking club or a book club, or some other meetup group. Getting her to meet different people, perhaps better than the other friends (aside from you) that you say she picks, may help her out. Again, that may not be something she’d go for, but you can feel free to suggest.

Good luck with this.

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