Post # 1
I work in a small dental office and there is another dental assistant who has made comments about me becoming pregnant. Before I got married she told me that I should wait six months after the wedding before my husband and I even thought about trying, because everything changes once your married. Then my mom went in for a filling and she told my mom that she thought that she talked me out of having children. Then one day we were folding towels together and she asked me if I had a treadmill and I said yes, then she was like well do you use it, I stated not as much as I would like to, she then said well you should and you should lose weight before you think about getting pregnant. Then like a week ago, I was talking about getting another puppy and the receptionist at the time, said no I think you should have a baby, then the assistant said no get the puppy don’t have a baby. All the girls in the office knew that I wanted to get married and start a family.
well on Friday I found out I was pregnant, and I wanted this dental assistant ( now receptionist because our other one quit) and our hygienist to know because as I am a dental assistant, I will not beable to take X-rays when I return to work on Tuesday. She texted me last night Don’t tell her (my boss) tell after your review ( my annual review is on Wednesday). I asked why, she stated, She is going to be mad so If u wait u will get your raise. I stated, I can’t take X-rays though, the nurse already told me that. She is going to give me a note to give her (my boss). She then stated, Lol ok well heads up.
I already know my boss is going to be mad, ( I havent told her yet, because I want to tell her in person) because I am her only dental assistant now that her other assistant is now the receptionist, and she didn’t plan on hiring anyone else. I’m really trying not to let any of this stress me out or bother me as I am worried that the stress could bring on a miscarriage. I am so happy to be pregnant, I just don’t know why they can’t! I just need some opinions on this. I think I need to have a talk with this receptionist to find out why she is so negative about me wanting a child.
also for those of you who have told your boss, were you scared to tell them? Did they react the way you thought they would?
Post # 3
I got tons of crap from my one coworker about waiting to get married, wait to have kids, don’t get dogs, etc, etc. He waited until he was in his mid/late 30’s to get married and start having kids, so he doesn’t see how someone that is in their mid 20’s could even consider it. I just ignored him, as I knew it wasn’t worth the battle. I did get pregnant by surprise though.
I definitely freaked out telling my boss, especially because I had to tell him at about 7 weeks. I was extremely sick (diagnosised with hyperemesis around weeks 8-9), and was already missing work at that time. I’m the only one capable of doing my job, as I’m the IT Director. Thankfully my boss was extremely supportive and is being great about the time off after the baby and allowing me to deal with things remotely as needed.
As for this coworker, let’s just say I’m still sick of him. He goes on and on all the time about what are we going to do while I’m on leave (we don’t even have maternity leave, so I’ll take unpaid time off, then work some from home), and what if something goes wrong. I get this anytime I go on vacation or am gone for more than a few hours. Yea – not my problem. That’s the boss’s issue to figure out and obviously he’s far from worried about it.
Post # 4
@snoie: this co-worker has 3 children of her own, and a stepdaughter which is 10 years old. Her 3 children were from a previous marriage, which she got married and had her first child at 21. I don’t get why she would want me to wait or not have kids, I’m 29 years old, going to be 30 in May. Personally I didn’t want to wait. Thanks for responding, it’s nice to get someone else’s perspective on everything. : )
Post # 5
@Kimmy83: I’m guessing the coworker wanted you to wait because having kids probably ‘ruined her life’ and she thinks you still have life left to live. I had a co-worker like that. I finally cornered them and asked wtf. That was their explanation to me.
Post # 6
- Wedding: February 2013 - Colonial Country Club, Ft. Myers, FL
Im a dental asst too! <3
A lot of dentists can be assholes about their assts being pregnant because of the x-ray thing, but that’s just too damn bad for them. I had to have emergency surgery earlier this year and my boss was like, “well can’t they reschedule it?” UGH!!!!
You should tell her, you shouldnt put yourself at risk because the other asst told you not too. She’s probably just bitter and jealous of you. And so what if your boss gets mad? She can’t fire you over it and its none of her business when you decide to start your family.
Good luck!!! We can swap dental office stories :oP
Post # 7
There opinions are just that…opinions. If you want to have a baby that’s your business and no one elses and if they keep trying to make it theirs then you can nicely tell them to back off. It doesn’t matter what they think of your pregnancy, they aren’t part of your family, they have no say.
Post # 8
First of all, Congratulations!! I’m a mother of a 26 year old son and g’ma to the sweetest 6 month old baby girl ever!!! Being a mom/g’ma is the best job in the whole world no matter what anyone tries to tell you, especially when you’ve wanted a family.
Sometimes people feel your news gives them the right to give you their opinion. You get engaged, they tell you not to get married. You get married, they tell you to wait or not have a baby. You get pregnant, they tell you all the negatives of becoming a mom. Sheesh, when will people just congratulate you and wish you well. If you ask “What do you think I should do?” then their advise is very much wanted. If they continue to butt in you can politely tell them you appreciate their concern but you’re doing what you feel is best for you and your husband. That way you’ll just kill them with sweetness.
I believe your co-workers reactions to your preganacy is because their only concern is how it’s going to effect their lives. The horror if they have to be a team player and pull some extra weight. Life happens and as far as telling your boss the only thing I can say is when you tell her, suggest you take over as receptionist and let the other assistant go to the back office. Hopefully this might soften the blow. I hope it all works out.