Post # 1
Am I alone in this or is everyone’s office a workplace full of negative Nancy’s?
I happen to work in an office of mostly women – so I don’t know if that hurts my odds, but I feel like everyone around me is has a failing marraige and assumes I will have the same thing.
Obviously the “honeymoon” phase wears off, and obviously things aren’t always going to be perfect. I’m not going into this thinking its all sunshine and roses but that doesn’t mean I expect to be miserable and wanting a divorce in ten years.
Bees, how do you deal with the negative comments? It’s getting harder and harder to just smile and walk away…
Post # 3
We have a couple at work too, ( we work together). I try my best to ignore them. I think some of it is just them being negative but I think a part of it is jealousy. But it may be different for different people
Post # 4
The people where I work tend to be negative about just about everything, relationships included. I honestly only deal with them when I have to and distinctly separate my personal/social life from my work life. It helps to approach it as though it’s amusing rather than frustrating. 😉
Post # 5
After hearing a lot of comments about how marriage changes everything, ruins relationships, etc., I started replying with “I’m sorry that your relationship didn’t work out; however, we have a great relationship and are confident in the choice we are making”.
As soon as you point out to people that it’s not the institution of marriage that ruins relationships, its PEOPLE that ruin relationships…they shut right up!
Post # 6
love it!!! My boss was always telling me she wouldn’t get married again and I told her I waited 17 years and I know what it’s we want. And that we honestly felt closer to each other now than back when we first met. She just looked at me like I had three heads. If you stay positive, it can only shock them! Smiling is the best armour for negative nancys! They HATE it!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!
Post # 7
You smile and nod and kill them with kindness.
You simply say “Thank you for your opinion, but I would like the chance to form my own opinion”
You dont want to make enemies or insult other people because their relationshps failed. Or have to put your own foot in your mouth because the future is unpredictable. (they were probably in your shoes at some point as well don’t forget and honestly feel like they may be helping you or no more)
Post # 8
@Happy2bMrs That is the best response!
@brideatbeach I try to think of it as amusing sometimes – I laugh a little to think they have to bring others down with them to make themselves feel better.
Honestly I know the best thing to do is “kill them with kindness” and just smile but sometimes I just get so sick of it all.
Post # 9
“Whoa… I’m sorry your past experience has made you so bitter and twisted. It must be exhausting carrying that much hate and resentment around with you everywhere…”
😀 hehe, that’s sure to shut them up!
Post # 10
haha I love that response!
Post # 11
I’ve shut them up before. Sorry, I don’t give a shit if your past relationships/marriages have failed if you go around and tell people theirs will do the same. It’s disrespectful.
Post # 12
Ignore them – they are usually the bitter ones as happiness just didn’t work out for them. Don’t let them rain down on your parade!!