- 11 years ago
- Wedding: June 2011
I am new here. I just got engaged 3 weeks ago and while I am extremely happy about my wonderful future with my amazing fiance, I can’t help feeling really down about the way some of my “friends” are reacting. To give a bit of background story, I met my finace last August and almost as soon as we met, we knew we were meant to be together. I’ve had multiple long term relationships that went no where (I am 35), and so to find true love FINALLY, I am estatic.
But instead of being genuinely happy for me, I hear from the gossip vine, that some people are saying my finace only proposed for a green card (he is Swedish, with a H1B visa. He is extremely talented and has really no need to get married to stay in the country). While I know it’s completely ludicrous, I feel really hurt from these kinds of comments. It was made from an old friend who I really thought cared for me.
She’s married herself, so I can’t imagine her being jealous. I can see our short dating period might raise some eyebrows but I don’t feel like I should have to defend my decision to want to be married to someone I am sure is right for me.
Shouldn’t this be the happiest time in my life? Why do I feel so alone? How do I deal with nasty comments like the above?