Post # 1
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Newbee
Today, for the first time since I got engaged about a month and half ago, I got a rude comment from someone on my ring! It was from a girl in the office who is a real drama queen and very gossipy, so I knew exactly her intent behind the comment. She said, “oh your ring is so cute!” Cute?! Pretty sure that is never an appropriate word to describe a ring. Especially because I think it implies my ring is small which I do not think at all! The center stone is 0.84 and over a carat with setting. I was so thrilled when I received it! I know that many girls out there have bigger rings. It’s completely obvious to see! But for some reason it doesn’t matter to me in the slightest. This is MY ring and it’s perfect to me. But that comment was just so ugly!
Have any of you received negative comments on your e ring?
Attaching a picture of my perfect ring just because it’s fun to share 🙂
Post # 2
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Buzzing Beekeeper
Your ring definitely does NOT look small on your finger. What a brat she is. Ignore her. Your ring is perfect.
Post # 3
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Helper bee
That ring is perfect!! I have not received any negative comments as I do not have my ring yet but I do have to say some people feel like diamons should be over 1 carat center stone. This is especially true for me in so california. I felt the pressure to get a 1 carat ring and ended up getting a .95 carat center stone. I kind of wish I got it a little smaller now as I am not really a flashy girl. Your ring is beautiful and it looks larger then .84
Post # 4
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Busy bee
Your ring is beautiful!!<br /><br />In the 3+ years I had mine the only “rude” comment was a few months back an ex-coworker also called my ring cute. I didn’t take it as being rude or insulting, just a weird word to describe an engagement ring, oh well.
Post # 5
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Bumble bee
Your ring is beautiful. Cute? People are idiots.
Post # 6
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Busy bee
Personally I don’t think cute is necessarily a bad thing to say, but I can see with the history you have explained with this girl, it’s obvious it was probably intended as a backhanded compliment! How rude. Your ring is gorgeous, and definitely doesn’t look small!!! I had only one person make an extremely rude comment about my ring. I announced the day after my engagement, the news to my labmates, everyone was very happy, and very congratulatory. However this one girl hadn’t seen my ring and when she spotted it, said “Your ring is huge, but you know I like my ring, it’s dainty and goes with my dainty hands”. She was basically implying I had huge hands, and basically saying rude stuff about my ring that my fiancee throughtfully designed all on his own. Needless to say I was rather upset, but no one was really surprised by what she said, because it’s her character. This is my ring 🙂 The centre stone is just over 1 carat (1.01 something like that)
Post # 7
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Buzzing bee
Your ring is beautiful, not cute. She probably doesn’t know too many ring-describing adjectives…
I’ve never had a negative ring comment, thankfully.
Post # 8
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Busy bee
Cute?!
LOL. What!? That’s just bananas. Your ring is beautiful!
Post # 9
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Bee Keeper
RutgersGirl12: Your ring is beautiful! And it looks beautiful on you, too.
flowerofeden: Your ring is also gorgeous. And I don’t think your hands are big at all — lol. I’ve gotten that type of “big hand” comment before, too. I never know quite what to say to it, and it is pretty hurtful. After all, my hands are the size that they are. I don’t have too much control over that.
Post # 10
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Bumble bee
What a hateful B-! I had a woman say the same thing to me and it immediately rubbed me the wrong way (she’s the type to get nasty whenever she feels insecure). I totally agree that the WAY someone says it to you and if you know they are hateful people, it’s definitely not an “innocent-didn’t-mean-anything-by-it” type comment.
Post # 11
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Bee Keeper
RutgersGirl12: I don’t think “cute” is necessarily a put down. I would take it to mean that she really likes the style of the ring, the same way someone would say that a purse or shoes are cute.
Post # 12
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Busy bee
longtimemrs: Thanks!! It’s such an odd comment too, because actually my hands are pretty small, I just have short kinda stubby fingers! I probably have the same sized hands as the girl who made the comment to me. It’s just unnecessary! Now I am getting all riled up again lol!
Post # 13
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Helper bee
Cute isn’t a mean thing to say. People just take it as offensive.
Post # 14
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Bee Keeper
flowerofeden: I would get pretty riled up about it, too! Usually, I tend not to jump to jealousy right away as a motive for comments. But, in your case, I think that comment was fueled by a little bit of jealousy on the other girl’s part.
I actually do have big hands, which is why I could tell from your picture that you didn’t. ^.~ I wear around a size 8, but keep my rings sized to about 8.5 because I like them loose. I’ve heard pretty much all the big hand comments along the years, including the dreaded “man hands” one. *sigh*
Post # 15
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Blushing bee
People communicate so much by nonverbal communcation or even someones tone so pretty much anything can be rude depending on someones delivery. Your ring is very beautiful tho, but I super get your frustration. Ill never understand how some ppl can feel entitled to spread their unsolicited rude opinions to the world.