Post # 1
So our wedding is a little over a month away and I could not be more excited. I knew from the beginning of my planning that I wanted a laid back, casual, shabby chic sort of vibe for the wedding. I have never been a fan of traditional bridesmaids dresses and my Fiance and I are anything but formal or traditional. So, we decided to let the girls get mismatched dresses from Modcloth and our guys mismatched grey suits.
Now, for some reason, people are coming out of the woodwork (with 40 days to go) and telling us how horrible our wedding is going to look in pictures. I understand that it is not everyone’s taste, but what good can come from you telling me my wedding is going to look like sh*t? I can’t change it at this point. Now, I am second guessing myself.
What is the stigma against mismatched weddings? I see tons of traditional bridesmaid’s dresses that I find unattractive, but would never in a million years voice my opinion to the bride! Why rain on my parade?
End vent =(
Post # 3
Eff those people. They dont understand that is the basis of a shabby chic wedding. Its not all matchy matchy. Stick to your guns. Your wedding will look great!
Post # 4
People always like to give their opinion even if you don’t want it! I agree about not loving everything that people have done for their wedding but keeping it to myself. Someone told me not to get a diamond wedding band because it was super tacky and many other silly comments I have chosen to ignore and forget. Screw ’em! Modcloth dresses and grey suits sounds adorable. I am having mismatched china/silverware.
Post # 5
If you haven’t figured out yet, a wedding seems to be an event where anyone feels like they can voice an opinion. Find a brief line you can use to indicate that their opinion will not alter your plans: “I’m sorry you feel that way, but we love the designs we picked and feel that the wedding will be unique and a beautiful representation of our tastes and personalities. While I appreciate your concern, we’re happy with our choices and will not be changing them.”
Try not to let them get to you. I’m sure the photos will still be beautiful!
Post # 6
Thanks guys! It is just frustrating. One of the worst offenders is the best man. He is making such a huge deal about it. So annoying!
Post # 7
How stupid. My bridesmaids are in mismatched dresses (same designer, color, fabric…but different styles to suit their tastes and body types) and the groomsmen are wearing a smattering of different light gray suits and tuxes. Sound familiar?
Everyone thinks that their opinion should matter…but it doesn’t. Your wedding and pictures will be beautiful and anyone who critiques you after the fact can kindly go eat a bag of dicks
Post # 8
Screw them. As long as you and your Fiance love it, that’s all that matters.
Post # 9
The only thing that matters is if you like the pictures. And your Fiance of course. And besides, how many pictures of the wedding party are there, really? We put all this stress into picking out bridesmaids dresses and groomsmen outfits, and while there will be a bunch of pictures of them taken, the focus is on the bride and groom. Not the wedding party.
Post # 10
- Wedding: September 2014 - county fairgrounds
i love the idea of the mismatched dresses but i only have 2 bridesmaids so i thought the mismatched would look too much like i just pulled to girls up out of the crowd rather than being deliberate. also i love love LOVE modcloth, it’s so vintage yet modern. are the girls getting dresses in similar colors or styles (other than the vintage feel) i think the stigma is just that its not traditional and they’re just afraid it’ll look messy but i feel like if there’s something to unify them it looks fantastic even if its just they wear the same shoes and jewelry for example.
people are afraid of whats different, i find that the people who go for the more different options tend to be more hush hush about people going the traditional route but people going the traditional route tend to be more outspoken about the “unusual” (for lack of a better term)
all in all its your wedding if you think putting everyone in a burlap sack is beautiful and fits your theme/ trend you’re going for then do that and forget about what everyone else has say… its YOUR wedding
also i think the mismatched dresses definately fit the shabby chic theme and lets the girls be there own person
Post # 11
That’s ridiculous! It sounds like a lovely wedding. It is yours and FI’s day- I don’t think you are making unreasonable requests. Stay true to what you would like!
Post # 12
People and their opinions ….it is annoying…just do what u want.
Post # 13
@MissEdamame This. Everyone feels entitled to give their opinion when it comes to weddings! These days, it seems like anything goes, so just stay true to what you and your Fiance would like. You will go crazy trying to please everyone. The best man should just keep quiet and wear the suit with a smile.
I am having my bridesmaids wear their own little black dresses. I will try to tie their looks together with sashes and/or flowers. There is the potential for the pictures to look “mismatched” but I feel like everyone looks good in a LBD and most people have been positive about this idea (especially my girls!).
Post # 14
Well, if it makes you feel any better, I felt that matching bridesmaid dresses were a little silly and juvenile, and I did not select them for my wedding. I’m pretty relieved that I have never had to wear one. too. (Note: I don’t actually volunteer this at weddings that are matching. I just figured you would like to hear an alternative view.)
Post # 15
Euch. Some people just will not accept individuality, particularly when it comes to a wedding because everything “has to be right”. Screw them. Some of the most beautiful wedding photography I’ve seen has been from more laid-baid, bohemian, mismatched weddings. If it’s what you want then you stick to your guns!
Post # 16
Well if it bothers the best man so much he should feel free to find a dress that all of the girls like, is flattering, coordinated, and within a reasonable price range . . . and foot the bill for new ones of course!
Some people. Geeze. If you and your ladies are happy that’s all that matters. People wearing things they like will always be more photogenic too, so I don’t get the “bad pictures” thing.