(Closed) Negative feelings toward Fiance…stress??

posted 9 years ago in Emotional
Post # 3
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Newbee
  • Wedding: September 2009

I’m so sorry to hear you guys aren’t seeing eye to eye right now!  It sounds to me like he is just stressed out… I would sit down and have a conversation about what is troubling him and what you can do to help him feel better about all the planning and take down the stress factor a notch.  Everyone deals with stress in different ways and it sounds like he is dealing with it via booze and his boys.  Just keep those lines of communication open!  It’ll all work out but until then -hugs-

Post # 5
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: May 2009

my hubby does this occasionally and especially a few months before the wedding. he’s just acting out…feeling the need to reassert his independence and ‘manliness’.  dont pay it too much attention, it will pass.  he just needs to feel like he doesnt have to answer to you… his friends are probably making fun of him and this is how he is showing them and hisself that he is still his own man.  i think its pretty common.  dont be worried until he really crosses the line.

Post # 6
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853 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: September 2009

i agree w/ futuremrsmorgan. it sounds like he’s trying to assert his independence a bit. i think we all go through that a bit – when you freak out about being part of a new unit and are worried about losing yourself. if it really bothers you, maybe speak to him at a separate time – not when he’s heading out – about how it makes you feel, etc. and see if that changes. else i’d say give it time it likely will pass.

Post # 7
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357 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: October 2009

I know that planning a wedding is stressful.  And it IS stressful for the groom no matter how much or little he’s involved in the planning.  And when there’s stress you tend to take it on out on those that you love the most, whether they deserve it or not. 

I agree with others who have commented.  Sit him down one evening and talk with him.  Tell him how you’re feeling and maybe he can get some things off of his chest too.  More than likely he’ll be back to normal after the wedding stress is over.

Post # 8
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Honey bee
  • Wedding: June 2010

I’m sure its just the stress.  You guys are really close to the wedding day and that can cause tension.  And even if your future hubby isn’t as involved in the process as you are, apparently they get stressed out too- who knew??  Lol.

I’m still 9 months away and I find myself having to relax sometimes when I tell my fiance about something or ask for his opinion and I don’t like his response, I can only imagine when its a month away!  I’m hoping to avoid bloodshed but, no promises!  I kid, I kid.

I’ve had a lot of friends get married recently and from what they tell me, this is pretty unavoidable.  But once the wedding day comes, its all LOVE again!  Hang in there! 

Post # 11
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Honey bee
  • Wedding: August 2010

Deep breath. In. Out. You love your Fiance even when things are bad, yes? Even if you are so mad you could throw something? Good sign. It’s wedding stress, and it’s totally normal. Good luck!

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