Post # 1
I need words of wisdom.
It has to do with my mom. It all started when I started dress shopping, she is very opinionated, even though she tries not to be. You can see it all in the expressions. So I knew that when I would try on dresses, she wouldn’t let me figure out if I liked it or not, she would decide. I didn’t want that kind of drama.
That being said I went dress shopping twice, and bought the dress the 2nd time, and I love it! I showed her, and she actually loves it too.
So yesterday I tried it on, and it still doesn’t fit yet, (I bought it a little small on the as is rack and I’m trying to lose weight!, if not I will just get it altered) But she insisted that I take pictures. To be honest, and this point taking pics of the back of the dress isn’t flattering at all! The back doesn’t shut, and its really tight so it gives me the back fat! The last thing I want is to have a constant reminder or that. Well with me saying no, there she is taking 5 billion pictures. That pissed me off.
Then the last thing happened this morning. I suggested that I might get a day of coordinator, I think it would bring the stress level down! Well she pretty much said that I was being selfish and wasting my money. Am I wrong or is this not MY day?!?! Plus my Fiance and I are paying for this wedding ourselves, so who is she to say what’s a waste of money.
I am so envious of all the bee’s that are close with their mom’s but I just am not one of them. Have you had any disagreements with your mom?
Post # 3
I had a few here or there and I finally realized that I needed to keep my mouth shut around her. I gave her the bigger details. “Picked flowers today” (didn’t say what or how much), “Found a photgrapher and she’s great!” (that was it). All the judging stopped and so did my hurt feelings.
Post # 4
How frustrating! I’m sorry she’s not being completely supportive.
My mom and I argued over invitations. We’re making our own and had decided on paper and she freaked out that it wasn’t the exact same shade of purple as the bridesmaids’ dresses. I told her every shade wasn’t going to match up.
Basically, if you guys are paying for the wedding, just say “Thanks for your opinion” and do what you want (does that sound harsh?). It’s your money, your wedding, and your decisions!
Post # 5
@mwitter80:Yea, I think that’s what I will need to do. It just sucks, because I’m her first daughter getting married, but then I think, well she has another daughter too. I think that’s what I will need to do though is just be very vague.
Oh and to add to it, I still live with my family, so I see her everyday! My Fiance and I aren’t moving in together till after we’re married.
Post # 6
@MissMellow: Yup, it is our money, and it’s not like we are having this crazy wedding at a 4 star hotel, with a 5 billion course meal you know? But I just feel like I am being selfish sometimes. I know it’s our wedding, but she keeps asking if we NEED to spend this much on stuff, and why I need to spend so much time on the DIY stuff. I just really enjoy it, plus I love the personal touches. Ugh!