- 8 years ago
We have all met them. They lurk in our office, could be a relative or close friend, or even an acquaintance. They’re those negative soles who will take any good news and make it seem like no big deal. They put you down for the sake of bringing you to their level. Examples:
“I spent a Sunday night making cute hangers for my girls dresses!”
Negative Nancy: “Oh, they will probably just put them in the back of their closet.”
“I’m thinking about bringing in extra christmas cookies to work.”
Negative Nancy: “Well if they have nuts don’t bother because no one will eat them.”
“It took me forever to match the girls purple dresses to the purple vests the guys will be wearing.”
Negative Nancy: “Don’t worry, no one will even notice the colors, as long as you have open bar that’s all anyone cares about at a wedding, not the details.”
Yes, these are all real conversations, and there are plenty more. I have met these types of people my entire life, but more so it seems in the wedding planning process. I try to let it roll of my shoulders, and most of the time I do, but there are some words and conversations that just stick to you. They make you feel like the effort you are putting into your wedding will be unappreciated in the end.
I have identified these people and have since stopped addressing any wedding issues with them. If you like an idea, concept, or project for you wedding DO IT! Forget about the Negative Nancy’s whispering in your ear telling you it’s pointless, no one will notice, etc. Normally, these are the things that people take notice to. And although, maybe everyone won’t appreciate the days you put into making paper products match, or the cute barber straws on the bar, at least one person will, and that makes all the difference.
Has anyone experienced Negative Nancys in wedding projects or life in general? And how do you deal with them?