Post # 16
snowbelles: They don’t feel that he’s good enough for me.
SaraJeanQ: We got engaged in January while I was working in another state for the duration of the winter. We havent set a date yet or started any planning as I’ve only been home for about a month! I would say its a year or two off, however with a baby on the way, it may be a lot sooner! Lol.
bibber: That’s what my friends have told me. They may not be happy initially, but hopefully they’ll come around.
TwilightRarity: Thank you, that really made me feel better! Truly. I don’t want to disappoint my family, but I also want to live my life for me and be happy! My Fiance and I are excited about this big step and I only hope they can be too.
Itsnotmeitsyou: Sounds like my Father! No filter and doesn’t mince words! I’m glad everyone else was happy for you!
Post # 17
- Wedding: September 2013 - Outdoor
Well, I haven’t told my dad that we’re expecting- the last time I talked to him we had just found out and I was debating when to say something, but he blew up at me for saying that I didnt want to discuss my mom (they have been divorced for 8 years) and said he was deleting me from his phone. So, too bad for him. I was a little worried about his family, but I told his parents but they are very elderly so they may not have really gotten it… and then I just saw his brother and sister at my cousin’s wedding… I couldn’t tell if they had heard or not but they were all very nice about it and didn’t bring up my dad at all. One of them may tell him but it’s really not my problem.
Post # 18
So sorry to hear you are feeling this way.
Early 20s used to be the right age to have kids.. maybe your parents had you at that age as well?
Think of a surprise annoucement. Like a box filled with blue/pink helium balloons – when someone is surprised by an announcement – it’s almost impossible to get mad. Best of luck!
Post # 19
I personally don’t have an experience with this, but try your best to just hold on to the happy memories you have from telling your friends and IL, and let whatever your family might say or how they react just go over your head. I know it can be hard sometimes, but once you’re pregnant it’s very good practice to let other people’s opinions just go in one ear and out the other. Unfortunately it seems that once a woman gets pregnant it’s open season for everyone around to comment on your body, your choices, etc. It can be especially hard with family, because you care about their opinions, but rest assured that once that little baby arrives, there aren’t many people who will be able to resist all that cuteness. Best of luck!
Post # 20
Stephefanie: I’m sorry to hear that. It makes me feel less alone knowing other people have dysfunctional families. I’m expecially nervous to tell my Father. He cannot stand my Fiance and refuses to have anything to do with him. They haven’t spoken in two years and my Father previously told me not to get pregnant because he would take me off of his insurance, etc, basically cut me off. This is why I’m so nervous, but if it ends up like that maybe it’s better that way. Instead of having such a negative person in my life.
christina2018: My parents were in their early 20’s when they had me, yes!
smad11: Thank you so much, that’s great advice.
Post # 21
- Wedding: September 2013 - Outdoor
jessxliii: It’s tough. My dad hasn’t made any effort to get to know Darling Husband and has made comments like it’s my fault, when he hasn’t made any effort to even try, all the times I’ve brought Darling Husband with me when goin to see him, plus Darling Husband was friends with my brother for years before we even started dating, so I think there’s been enough opportunity.
The thing about support is that it pretty much comes with strings. It’s a lot easier to set the terms of your relationship on an adult level when you are not dependant, so if you can figure that out first, then he won’t have any strings to pull. Anyway congrats on your pregnancy, remember that stressing isn’t good for the baby so just let as much roll off you back as you can 🙂