(Closed) Negatives of moisanite?

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Post # 17
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Honey bee
  • Wedding: March 2014

@walksa: There is a particular type of light that makes it sparkle a LOT. But I wouldn’t say it OVER sparkles. It doesn’t look any sparklier than one of those premium, extra faceted diamonds, so if you’re trying to pass it off, I’d tell people it was that.

I personally told the truth about mine. People were initially weirded out when I told them about it (One coworker even asked “So…your ring came from space?!”) but it was mainly because none of them had ever heard of it before. One of them is even considering it for her Engagement Ring now.

I got engaged on Oct. 15, and so far I have absolutely zero regrets. It still sparkles like the day I got it, and the people I tell about it think it’s really cool.

Post # 19
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Busy bee

@BBee: I totally hear you! I love my e-ring don’t get me wrong, but my dream bridal set that I couldn’t find ANYWHERE was right there on the moissaniteco website! Grrrr, my Fiance and I could have saved ourselves a lot of heartache and wasted time at silly jewlery stores had we found out about it first. Ugh, now to find a wedding band to match my e-ring…. joy….

Post # 20
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Honey bee
  • Wedding: September 2012

My ring looks nothing like CZ in photos. 
The only negative is dealing with judgements for not wanting a diamond and misinformation. 

Post # 21
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: July 2013

@LuvShoes: That’s kind of funny, actually.

Moissanite is DEFINITELY fake. It is fake DIAMOND.

But, then again, DIAMOND is definitely fake MOISSANITE.

Moissanite is a real gem with it’s own qualities. So I guess you can say the same thing of sapphire looking “fake”, because it doesn’t look like a diamond. But Moissanite wasn’t made to look like diamond, which is why it is cut to different proportions to optimize optical properties. If they wanted it to look like a diamond, they could do a much better job. But moissanite is a lovely looking stone and it is made to be seen as such, despite some peoples choice to pass it off as diamond. Now, I don’t think there is anything wrong with somebody trying to pass off moissy as diamond, but in that case, if someone calls your moissanite a “fake” then they are right. But I plan to wear my moissanite as the lovely, very real, moissanite gem that it is, and there is NOTHING “fake” about it in that case…

 

Post # 22
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: April 2011

@Kat: Loved your post.

I think (theory inspired by the other post about the OP’s Fiance buying a Tiffany box for a non-Tiffany ring)…people with the “real thing” get a little annoyed with “fake versions” of what they have.  In that case, the one poster spent so much money on the whole “Tiffany experience” that when OP came along being able to pass off something cheaper as that (not that she was trying to pass it off as the real thing), the poster was a little peeved.  I guess when you spend that kind of money on something, you’re in a whole other class and don’t want “fakers” included with you.

So in terms of moissanite, I think people with “real” diamonds look down on moissy girls either because they can afford a bigger stone than girls with a “real” diamond, or because they don’t understand that we can’t all drop $5000+ on a ring, etc. 

As far as I can see, people not understanding/misunderstanding moissanite is the biggest downside.  My mom and I had the hugest fight tonight because she thinks I’m selling myself (and FI) short by not getting a “real diamond”.  **humph**

 

Post # 23
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: October 2011

KatNewby said it all.

Moissanite in itself is not a fake. It is an actual gemstone, albeit 99% of them are probably lab made but it is a gemstone nonetheless. Moissanite is a mineral made of silicon carbide that naturally occurs in Space and was first discovered in the late 1800s by Henri Moissan who was examining a meteor crater in Arizona. Henri Moissan himself thought that it was a diamond but later found that it was silicon carbide and not diamond. It was later named after him.

Moissanite is very similar to Diamond but again it is NOT a Diamond, Diamond simulant, Diamond imitation or a “fake” diamond. It is a gemstone in its own right just like any other gemstone (i.e. Cubic Zirconium, Sapphire, Aquamarine, [insert your favorite here]). It has its own standards and its own qualities. I think there is so much confusion with Moissanite because it is very similar to Diamond and some people, not all, do try to pass it off as a Diamond of their own accord but again, it has its own identity.

Post # 24
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: October 2010

My mom bought a ring about 10 years ago… She had to return it 3 times before she gave up… Kept turning yellow every few years. She felt it was a great deal at the time but now feels like she wasted money… I have no idea if they’ve “improved them” at all… 

Post # 25
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Worker bee
  • Wedding: August 2012

@Miss Tattoo: i don’t think i’m spreading misinformation by saying that i can tell that moissys aren’t diamonds in pictures. this is a personal thing which i made sure to mention. i have seen your ring in quite a few posts, but they’ve been cell pics so they haven’t been too clear. because of the blurriness (which isn’t your fault, for one, it’s HARD to take non blurry pics) it’s not as easy to tell that it’s a moissy with your ring, i admit. 

 the “disco ball effect” is supposed to be the biggest giveaway for those trying to pass moissy off as diamond. and it should be. as KatNewby said, they cut it differently than diamonds. after all of this, i should say that i am open to buying moissy earrings at some point. i think that the flashier nature of moissy might look good in stud form because i have long hair. so more flash could be better!

last thing, one thing to look out for is that moissys often take in the color of their surroundings. that’s a dead giveaway that it’s not a diamond. like in this pic… i think this one was unenhanced though. but i’ve heard others mention that the enhanced stones still take on the color of its surroundings…

 

Post # 26
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: November 1999

I don’t think there are any “negatives” per se about a Moissanite.  The negatives would be where your personal opinion comes in.  Double refractive is not necessarily a negative, only if it’s not something pleasurable to you.

I would like to reiterate, also, that nothing is a fake anything.  Diamonds are not the end all be all of clear stones.  To think that anything else besides a diamond is a fake is sort of ignorant.

Post # 27
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: December 2011

@LuvShoes: Not sure why it is that on every moissanite thread, somebody has to come in & say “It’s fake!”. That isn’t even an educated response to the OP’s question- it’s your personal opinion. She’s looking into moissanite because she’s considering it, & most likely asking for advice from ACTUAL moissanite owners. Then when they come here to respond, they see your mean-spirited comment…. then the debate ensues, ughh. I really wish people could learn some tact on these ring threads…

 

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@soon2bhis: I agree w/ what you said about the previous thread regarding the Tiffany replica, but trust me- not every diamond owner (I’m one!) looks down on moissanite… or any other stone for that matter. In fact, I drool over it ALL. Just sayin 🙂 It also doesn’t mean anyone wearing a diamond can actually afford to drop 5k- ours was a family stone passed down. I wouldn’t take your mom’s comment personal- yesterday I told my mom I wanted a pair of moissy studs for a wedding present to wear on the big day- she made a face & said “Don’t worry- I’ll get you something real“! Argg- frustrating.

Post # 28
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Honey bee
  • Wedding: September 2012

@hypercrazy38: To me, that looks like an actual green moissanite. Like it’s purposely green. I have a green shirt on right now and the is no way my stone looks like that.  

@LuvShoes: I’m pretty sure people are going to be pissed if they spend over a grand on a piece of jewelery and lose it. Maybe you are in a much higher income bracket than everyone else here and dropping over a grand on “costume jewlery” is your thing. I’d be effing pissed if I lost my ring. Just because I didn’t spend $8000 on it doesn’t mean that I’m not going to care if I lose it. WTF
Why do diamond owners even come onto these threads? Do you own a moissanite? No, you don’t.

Pics of mine next to my green bag. It looks nothing like in the above photo. But you can get moissanite in pink, yellow, and green. Sorry for the crappy cell phone quality, but you get the picture:

 

Post # 29
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: September 2011

I saw a bunch of moissanite jewelry in person once when I was a lot younger, and it’s really, really gorgeous. We didn’t go that route, but I don’t think there really is ever a negative to a stone? They all have their own properties, so nothing is ever really a negative (except maybe that pearls and opals are soft stones and thus more fragile or something).

Post # 30
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Worker bee
  • Wedding: August 2012

@Miss Tattoo: i found the pic in a forum from a user who was concerned about why her moissanite turns green if she’s near green things. it might happen with certain moissys and not others? yours might be protected from reflecting colors because you’ve got a halo around the center? i remember deathbydesign mentioning that she was walking by the beach and her moissy was reflecting blue so i don’t think i was completely off track.

i’m on this thread because i’ve been researching a lot about moissys -because i’m possibly buying earrings at some point. i think, as a diamond owner, i should have the right to comment on this thread. 😛

Post # 31
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: December 2010

@Miss Tattoo: Just wanted to say that I’d never actually seen your ring before and I love it! So sparkly and gorgeous.

Moissanite =/= “fake diamond.” It’s a real gemstone, just like a sapphire or emerald.

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