Post # 1
Darling Husband and I are not ttc just yet, but we are getting close to it. I have a regular annual appointment with my obgyn tomorrow (actually, her nurse practitioner, not the doc herself), and I’d like to start talking to them about my family plans. However, I am a little nervous about this, because I’m considering a natural birth, possibly even a home birth. I mentioned this to my mother, and she gave me a look like I was a true idiot, rolled her eyes, and then said, “Don’t be crazy, go to a hospital” in a maddeningly condescending tone. I should point out that I am 29, in decent health (not really overweight, no major illnesses), and we have no family history of genetic issues or trouble in pregnancy or delivery. So it didn’t seem “crazy” to me to consider having a natural birth, possibly at a birthing center or at home.
Now, as much as it might irritate me, I can brush off my mom’s comment as being uninformed and kind of a jerk thing to say. But I am a little afraid I might meet with a similarly negative reaction if I broach this topic with my obgyn. Have any of you discussed natural and/or home births with your doctor? What was the response? Do you have any recommendations for a good way to discuss this with someone who is trained to go the more medical/hospital route?
Post # 3
If the obgyn you see is not receptive to your ideas then it is time for you to find a new health care provider. Whatever you choose, you need to have someone who supports you. And no matter what you choose, SOMEONE will always think you are doing it wrong 🙂
Post # 4
I am not planning on being pregnant anytime soon, but recently saw “The Business of Being Born” (the Rikki Lake Documentary) and it definitely convinced me that home/center births are the way to go if you are not at high risk. Personally, when I’m ready I think I’ll look into a center with affiliation/close proximity to a hospital just in case…
In any case, I’d encourage your mom to watch that movie and look into centers and midwives near year. Realize you may need to change providers because MANY will not be supportive of not doing a hospital birth…
Post # 5
both of my SILs had their babies at a birthing center – both natural and they opted for water births. After hearing their stories i’m contemplating it. Its totally a personal preference – there are a lot of women out there these days that are choosing a midwife/birthing center over a hosiptal. do what feels right for you, and if your ob/gyn doesnt support it find a new one.
My Mother-In-Law had her first baby at home by accident 🙂 haha
Post # 6
You can give birth at home with a licensed midwife there, they can always have you transferred to a hospital in case of emergency. You could also give birth at a birth center which is compromise between hospital and home. Or you can have a midwife attend you hospital birth to ensure it will be natural and med free
Post # 7
Talk to your Dr. and see if they can recommend a midwife for you to meet with. If they don’t work with midwives, look into a medical group that works with them. I don’t have kids yet, but when I do start ttc I will find an OB who works with them. My cousin went that route and had a great experience.
Post # 8
Point of view from a baby nurse..
I am sure you are going to get plenty of great stories and experiences from people who have done this and would recommend it. And I am sure your going to hear stories from people who had horrible experiences in a hospital too. For me, I am going to have to be honest and say the thought of that causes a little panic inside of me- because I am a neonatal intensive care unit nurse. So, unfortunately I get the babies were something went wrong. Some babies we know are coming, and the parents know they are coming to us so there is no shock factor there. Others.. Moms who had totally healthy pregnacies, no risk factors at all and something just went WRONG during delivery. Although statistics aren’t high, we do get those calls very often, daily even. The “STAT” calls where we have to go running down the the delivery room because something is wrong with the baby and we have to quickly recusitate it. Just because I see all those cases daily.. If it was me and my baby, I wouldn’t want a NICU team less than 30 seconds away from me incase something happened. Now, with that being said. NICU babies are less than 10 % of all births, the the chances of something going wrong aren’t HUGE but it does happen and the person it can happen to could be you and I wouldn’t want to be 10 minute ambulance ride away. (That’s is just how I feel about home births, natural births (no drugs, epidural)- Go for it!
Post # 9
Chances are they will have a bit of a problem with this. I have had some amazing OBGYN’s and some even do home births but none are comfortable with doing a first birth at home. Since this will be #4 for me they are completely comfortable with me going the home route. I have easy peasy deliveries and horribly complicated spend weeks in the hospital pregnancies. So I plan to give birth at home this time but the first time I had to give birth in a birthing center less then a block from the hospital. It was still a great experience but not the same as a home birth. Since my first was 8 hrs labor, the next 4, and so on they figure I would end up deliverying in the car anyway LOL.
Post # 10
I am really undecided on this subject. I love the idea of homebirth and bringing your baby into the world at home rather than a hospital (I hate hospitals!). However, I know someone who had a homebirth where there were complications. As a result, the baby was without oxygen for too long and it caused severe brain damage. He’s now 6 or 7 years old and can’t walk or talk..it’s very sad.
That being said, my Fiance works in the medical field and has delivered babies before. He still thinks that having a baby at home is just as safe as in a hospital. Fortunately this isn’t a decision we have to make anytime soon since we’re not planning to get pregnant till a year after the wedding so there’s lots of time to think about it.
Post # 11
@missjul: I totally see your point on this – it would be awful to discover there was a life-threatening situation, and not be at the hospital. I do live about 5 minutes from the hospital, but that’s too long in some situations.
I think the idea of having a midwife present but being at a more hospital-like facility (like a birthing center connectd to a hospital), as suggested by @bells: and @Ms. Peach:, is a nice compromise. I’m doing some research online to try to find a birthing center and midwives in my area, and I’m really striking out. The only things that come up when I search are one local doula and a non-profit facility that serves those without insurance. I’m hopeful that my obgyn will be able to provide more information.
Post # 12
@As_You_Wish: We are due date twins!!
I know this is an old thread but what are your plans now that you are pregnant?
I’m having a home birth and couldn’t be happier with that choice 🙂
Post # 13
I didn’t get any negative reactions from my doctors office when I found out I was pregnant. They asked me what OB I would be seeing and I said “well actually I’m going to be seeing a midwife” and I didn’t leave any room for doubts. I am 100% positive I’ve made the right decision for myself and my baby. I’ll be delivering in a gorgeous birth center in a huge bathtub with wonderful midwives there to help me. I am SO happy about it!