- 7 years ago
- Wedding: October 2012
Hi Bees! I’m hoping to get some insight before negotiating for a restaurant reception.
Budget goal – $5,000 including tax and gratuity
Guest list – 63 adults, 10 children
Buyout minimum – $3,000
Meal price per person – Menus start at $30
Regular wine menu price per bottle – $24-$46; must purchase from restaurant
My hang ups are these:
1) I really don’t want to pay $30 for each child. One will be 7 years old by then, the rest will be under 5. I wouldn’t be surprised if many of the moms are packing Tupperware for them. 🙂
There’s no children’s menu at this place. Is it reasonable to ask for a reduced rate for kids? If so, what price might be reasonable? $15? $10?
2) The booze. We’re probably in for 4 or 5 cases of wine plus a sangria cocktail hour. Can we negotiate down from the price that appears on the daily menu? Or better yet, up from the restaurant’s cost price? Should we only be asking for discounts once we hit the minimum (such as “x” percent off portion of bill over $3,000)?
3) Mandatory gratuity. I’m happy to pay it. We go to this restaurant regularly and enjoy the staff. But — is it inappropriate to ask that the contract state that the gratuity will be provided to the staff? If we’re paying 20 percent on everything, I don’t want to feel I have to double tip to be a good patron and I don’t want my guests to have to tip, either, every time they get a glass of wine from the bar.
We really like this restaurant, and want to maximize value without short-changing the owner. Any advice from skilled negotiators, restaurant reception veterans, and F&B experts very welcome! 🙂