(Closed) Neice as ring bearer?

posted 9 years ago in Ceremony
Post # 3
1276 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: August 2009

Do what works for you.  I’m not sure of any traditions of bad luck associated with a girl touching the rings beforehand.  And even if there were some, sounds like it wuoldn’t bother you.

Of course, I’m not very traditional about these things.  I think the main thing you’ll have to contend with is people not being a little surprised, and possibly confused.  but it’s 2009!  In Indian tradition the groom rides in on a horse with his youngest male relative.  Well fizicsGuy is the youngest male in his family, so he’s riding with his niece.  My uncle 28 years ago wanted to ride with his 3 nieces (not a random distant male relative), so he got a horse drawn carriage instead of a traditional white horse, and that’s what we did.  Interestingly it was my maternal grandmother (not his mother, my mom’s mom) who thought it was weird.  But whatever…he’s still married so obviuosly breaking tradition didn’t doom their future together or anything.

My piont is that maybe people will say things, but if you’re fine with it, do it.

Post # 4
405 posts
Helper bee

Do what you want! I think it’s cute to have a little girl as a ring bearer! Who said only boys can be ring bearers! If brides can have bridesmen and grooms can have grooms girls why can you have a female ring bearer?!

Post # 5
45 posts
  • Wedding: July 2009

Go for it. Its a wonderful idea.

Post # 6
2025 posts
Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: November 1999

When my aunt got married in the early 90’s, I was a flower girl and my older sister was the ring bearer because there were no other children in our family. I think it is totally fine to have a girl be a ring bearer or a boy be a flower boy if the situation calls for it.

Post # 7
818 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: March 2010

I was a ring bearer in a wedding when I was younger. I don’t see any problem with having a female ring bearer.

Post # 8
445 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: October 2009

My twin sister and I were ring bearers in my aunt’s wedding back in 1986.  Haha.  We were called Princess Ring Bearers and we loved that!  I was 7 at the time and I vaguely remember people saying that ring bearers were supposed to be boys, but we’d remind them that we were PRINCESS Ring Bearers.  It’s all in the name. 

Post # 9
66 posts
Worker bee
  • Wedding: October 2009

we’re having my fiance’s 25-year-old best friend be our ringbearer. he’s giant, so part of it is just because it will be funny to see him holding a tiny pillow.

Post # 10
2856 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: September 2009

I say go for it! Break tradition. It’s more fun that way!

Seriously, I don’t think you are breaking any wedding rules by doing so. If it makes you happy to have her as the ring bearer then do it.

Post # 11
231 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: June 2010

I think it sounds like such a sweet idea!

Post # 12
647 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: July 2010

Do it, I think it’ll make her feel very included.  Who cares if the ring bearer is traditionally male, it’s a pretty minor tradition anyway–I say do what  makes you happy.

Post # 13
2640 posts
Sugar bee

Boy it would be really nice if those people nay saying around you would hold their objections for something worthwhile….  Why not make it cute.  Have the boys have the traditional pillow and have her carry a pomander or something with the ring tied to it.  Really she could have a pillow too.  But as a girl, she might enjoy if it was girlified.

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