Post # 1
Bees, I am so upset right now I have no words. I don’t know if this should go in legal, emotional, pets or what….
Our neighbor today informed my dad that some of the property that we have thought was ours for the last 12 years is not ours, but in fact our neighbors. This is ignoring the original survey of the land that was marked out of what is ours and theirs, but he called out a land surveyor and they re marked our property line, 4 feet in from where the original land marks are. He then told us that we had 2 days to get all of our stuff off of his property ( which until today was OUR property… or so we thought) . Our wood pile, our bushes, our trees, and our dead dog’s GRAVE.
We have no bad history with this man, I am not sure that we have ever actually spoken with him other than about the original property line dispute.
Now bee’s I could not give a shit about the land… I have more important issues to deal with in my life than who owns four feet of dirt. I AM upset that he demanded that we move Shana’s grave. We asked him if it would be possible to leave her there for the rest of the year and re bury her next year, to give her time to decompose to just bone and rebury her, and he told us NO, either we dig her up now, or he would have someone do it and “dispose of her” .
Now Shana has olny been in the ground for I think five months, and My poor daddy and little brother have to dig her up and move her body.
I would not wish this on my worst enemy, and I think this is very cruel of this man to do to us.
The best part of this? This creature Man is my FILS lawyer that is on retainer.
Post # 3
i don’t know much about this stuff… but how do you know that HIS land surveyer is MORE correct than the one from before?
Post # 4
Oh honey, I’m so sorry. That really is crap. Please try to remember that Shana isn’t in the ground anymore, that’s just her body. I’m very sorry you have to deal with this.
Would you consider having someone else do the actual digging so you don’t have to see anything? ETA: I see that your dad and brother are going to do it for you. I would still make sure you weren’t home that day. 🙁
Post # 5
Sorry, just thinking here: Could you dig up a hole a few feet away from her actual grave and just let him think you moved her? How would he even know?
Post # 6
Oh my god, what an awful human being. I would be suspicious about a land surveyor that he paid to do the work conveniently made his property line bigger. What a heartless thing to do. No advice, other than maybe telling your in-laws about it so he at least loses some clients over it.
Post # 7
Juliepants: I am at FI’s right now. I’m a hot mess.
I feel so bad for my little brother I tried bringing him with me but he wouldn’t come. We found her when LB was just a week old. She has been in his life for his entire life almost 18 years.
Edit: I don’t think WE want her there now. All we asked was for a bit of time to move her he wouldn’t give us that, and we would be afriad that he would go and check to make sure she was moved. Future Father-In-Law says that he is the type of man to do that, and then give US the bill…
Post # 8
That guy is clearly a dirtbag. I would highly suggest hiring your own land surveyor to come out and reaccess the property line. I’m sorry you’re going through this. I agree with Juliepants, I would see if you could have someone else come out and handle this so that your family doesn’t have to deal with it.
Post # 9
I have no advice but I am SO SO SO sorry. I seriously can’t even imagine how much this would kill me. Sending prayers to your and your fam.
Post # 10
@Juliepants: This sounds like it could possibly be a good idea. I would do it when he wasn’t home and not say anything about it. He would just have to assume you reburied him.
What a horribe person though. What harm could possibly come to him if your dog was left in the original grave? My FIs parents had a beautiful large tree that shaded their house. It was technically growing on their neighbors property, and the neighboors just cut it down one day. No more shade. His parents were going to move anyway, so they didn’t see the point in doing anything, but if they hadn’t planned to move I would have grown a tree right next to it only on his parents property. Maybe you could grow a tree on your side of the property in Shana’s memory? The tree would grow larger each year and would be a constant reminder to the jerk lawyer of how much of a jerk he was.
Post # 11
I’m so sorry about your situation 🙁 What a horrible thing to do…
Post # 12
Hire another surveyor. Speak to a lawyer.
Post # 14
Oh no. This is truly horrible. I wholeheartedly agree – get your own surveyor ASAP. Maybe he thinks that as he is a lawyer, he can steamroll you into accepting this. Don’t take it. Does he even know about your darling furbaby?
Lots of hugs.
ETA – I read your post with more care. What a douche.
Post # 15
I’m not sure that’s legal …not a lawyer or anything, but I think there’s some sort of rule that if you’ve considered the land yours and taken care of it for a certain period of time, it IS yours. I would definitely not just assume his surveyor was correct.
Post # 16
I just talked to my dad and he said that they both agreed on the land surveyor, my dad likes to do the right thing and if we were on his property then we are on his property and if not then no harm no foul. it happened that it is his property, mom went down to the tax office where they have all the properties marked out and it seems like the surveyors are right. :/
Dirt is dirt in our world… and it is not like we were going to leave her there FOREVER… just untill she was done decomposing….
Mom says we are getting a big ass fence and putting it up between the properties now. We let a lot of things slide with him… His dogs atttacking ours ( who were on a leash his were not) burning tires on the property line, dumping leaves and stuff on our property… We tried to be good neighbors… keeping the dogs quiet, no loud music, we’re very much you leave us alone we will leave you alone.
But this i feel is crossing any and every kind of line…
Edit: moonadea: it is… but the law here is 21 years… we have olny been here 12