(Closed) Neighbor is forceing us to Dig up our Dog’s grave :(

posted 6 years ago in Emotional
Post # 3
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: October 2012

i don’t know much about this stuff… but how do you know that HIS land surveyer is MORE correct than the one from before?

Post # 4
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Bumble Beekeeper

Oh honey, I’m so sorry.  That really is crap.  Please try to remember that Shana isn’t in the ground anymore, that’s just her body.  I’m very sorry you have to deal with this.

Would you consider having someone else do the actual digging so you don’t have to see anything?  ETA: I see that your dad and brother are going to do it for you.  I would still make sure you weren’t home that day. 🙁

Post # 5
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Bumble Beekeeper

Sorry, just thinking here: Could you dig up a hole a few feet away from her actual grave and just let him think you moved her?  How would he even know? 

Post # 6
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Bumble bee

Oh my god, what an awful human being. I would be suspicious about a land surveyor that he paid to do the work conveniently made his property line bigger. What a heartless thing to do. No advice, other than maybe telling your in-laws about it so he at least loses some clients over it.

Post # 8
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Sugar Beekeeper
  • Wedding: October 2011

That guy is clearly a dirtbag. I would highly suggest hiring your own land surveyor to come out and reaccess the property line. I’m sorry you’re going through this. I agree with Juliepants, I would see if you could have someone else come out and handle this so that your family doesn’t have to deal with it. 

Post # 9
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: August 2012

I have no advice but I am SO SO SO sorry. I seriously can’t even imagine how much this would kill me. Sending prayers to your and your fam.

Post # 10
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Blushing bee
  • Wedding: August 2012

@Juliepants:  This sounds like it could possibly be a good idea. I would do it when he wasn’t home and not say anything about it. He would just have to assume you reburied him. 

What a horribe person though. What harm could possibly come to him if your dog was left in the original grave? My FIs parents had a beautiful large tree that shaded their house. It was technically growing on their neighbors property, and the neighboors just cut it down one day. No more shade. His parents were going to move anyway, so they didn’t see the point in doing anything, but if they hadn’t planned to move I would have grown a tree right next to it only on his parents property. Maybe you could grow a tree on your side of the property in Shana’s memory? The tree would grow larger each year and would be a constant reminder to the jerk lawyer of how much of a jerk he was.

Post # 11
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: October 2012

I’m so sorry about your situation 🙁 What a horrible thing to do…

Post # 12
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: November 2013

Hire another surveyor.  Speak to a lawyer. 

Post # 13
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Buzzing Beekeeper

What a prick.

Post # 14
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: August 1993

Oh no. This is truly horrible. I wholeheartedly agree – get your own surveyor ASAP. Maybe he thinks that as he is a lawyer, he can steamroll you into accepting this. Don’t take it. Does he even know about your darling furbaby?

Lots of hugs.

ETA – I read your post with more care. What a douche.

Post # 15
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: June 2012

I’m not sure that’s legal …not a lawyer or anything, but I think there’s some sort of rule that if you’ve considered the land yours and taken care of it for a certain period of time, it IS yours. I would definitely not just assume his surveyor was correct.

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