Post # 1
Okay, so I have a fenced in yard, and 2 dogs. Our neighbor has a fenced in yard, 2 dogs, and a kid ( I would say no more than 3 years old)
The kid is constantly left out in their yard to play by himself and the two dogs. Every now and then when I let my dogs out, they bark like crazy. One time I went out there and the little kid was literally sticking his hand through his fence to try and pet my dogs. The parents are usually nowhere to be seen. Yesterday, the mom came out, yelled at the kid about something, then went back in the house.
Now, I have never had any issue with my dogs biting anyone. However, dogs can be un-predictable and this makes me very nervous and now I am afraid to just let my dogs out on their own.
I guess I need some advice on what to do. What would you do in my situation? Go over and talk to the neighbor?? I don’t want to look like the jerk, but I am just concerned for the child’s safety.
Post # 3
@legenwaitforitdary: I would definitely just go talk to the parents. What can it hurt? Don’t do it in a confrotational way, just say hey I noticed that your son/daughter was curious about my pups and I don’t mind him petting them with supervision. If they have a problem with it then you might have to install a fence that no hands can fit through. I know fences are really expensive so try to work with the parents first because if your dog bites their kid I think you will be held liable.
Post # 4
I would go over to your neighbor and just explain, very nicely, that you saw her son was putting his hand through the fence you are worried that your dog will bight him. They your dog is just protecting his yard and the child needs to understand that it isn’t safe. Just be super nice about it and there shouldn’t be any problems. Do your best not to make it seem like you are calling her a bad mom.
Post # 5
@legenwaitforitdary: I would go talk to them. That’s not cool. We have a two year old and a dog. Our neighbors have 2 dogs that are small dogs but I still wouldn’t let Dirty Delete go out there by herself. I don’t trust dogs to be around little kids alone and they are unpredictable. Your neighbors should have some courtesy because they are putting you in a difficult situation.
Post # 6
@legenwaitforitdary: I hate to be the voice of doom, but saying something to this lady would just make things worse, after all. It’s their yard and I if they wanna roast a pig back there you have nothing to say about it. Those are your dogs, either stay aout there while they’re out or build a privacy fence. good fences make good neighbors.
Post # 7
This would drive me crazy. I don’t think I played outside alone until around age 5. But… Agree with
Post # 8
@Nona99: Ugh, I thought talking to them would make it worse too. It’s kind of annoying, because the point of the fence is so I don’t have to be out there with the dogs…blah.
Post # 10
- Wedding: November 2013 - St. Augustine Beach, FL
Do you think the child is being left out there for an unreasonable period of time? Or while the parents are gone from the house? If so, call local child protective services.
Otherwise, mind your own business and fix any holes in the fence.
Post # 11
- Wedding: January 2013 - Harbourfront Grand Hall
@legenwaitforitdary: They sound like irresponsible parents so I don’t think talking to them is going to do any good. Personally I would put up a secondary fence so that the kid can’t reach his hands through the current one to your dogs.
It may sound extreme, but you don’t want your dogs to have a bite record nor do you want that child to get hurt.
Post # 12
@beachbride1216: I think the parents are home, because the mom will come out to yell at him. I’m not sure what an unreasonable period of time would be, but I would say a couple hours? Not positive though.
Post # 13
- Wedding: November 2013 - St. Augustine Beach, FL
A visit from child services may encourage her to keep her child inside the house more often. I personally view tossing a 3 year out to play alone in the backyard to be neglect at the very least. There are too many things that could go wrong while mom is enjoying her personal time in the house. But who knows? Mom could be watching the child out of the window.
Post # 14
I would go talk to the parents and just state out of concern you’d appreciate it if she would speak to her child about not sticking his hand through the fence/trying to touch unfamiliar dogs without an adult because you don’t want him to get hurt.
Any opinions you have about her leaving her child in the backyard to play I would keep to yourself. Unless the child is in immediate harm it’s not worth it to have a bad relationship with your neighbors. No relationship is better than a bad one, trust me.
Post # 15
I say fix the fence (if that section of the fence is “yours”) so that a kid can’t reach through. If it’s chain link, I think you should consider it time for a visual and functional upgrade, and get a new fence.
I also think you should talk to the mom, and try and be gentle about it (so that she doesn’t get defensive/it doesn’t backfire). She needs to know that her son is doing something risky. I wouldn’t phrase it as “I think my dogs might bite him”, i’d connect with her as a dog lover and just say that even though biting hasn’t been a problem in the past, you’re worried that her son sticking his hand into the dog’s territory has potential for a territory issue between the dogs.
Post # 16
@littletigers: Oh yeah, I would definitely not say anything about how the child is outside by himself, because I know nothing more about it. Just the whole dog thing makes me nervous.