(Closed) Neighbor situation..

posted 5 years ago in Home
Post # 3
506 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: November 2013

@legenwaitforitdary:  I would definitely just go talk to the parents. What can it hurt? Don’t do it in a confrotational way, just say hey I noticed that your son/daughter was curious about my pups and I don’t mind him petting them with supervision. If they have a problem with it then you might have to install a fence that no hands can fit through. I know fences are really expensive so try to work with the parents first because if your dog bites their kid I think you will be held liable. 

Post # 4
3170 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: October 2012

I would go over to your neighbor and just explain, very nicely, that you saw her son was putting his hand through the fence you are worried that your dog will bight him. They your dog is just protecting his yard and the child needs to understand that it isn’t safe. Just be super nice about it and there shouldn’t be any problems. Do your best not to make it seem like you are calling her a bad mom.

Post # 5
2401 posts
Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: October 2012

@legenwaitforitdary:  I would go talk to them. That’s not cool. We have a two year old and a dog. Our neighbors have 2 dogs that are small dogs but I still wouldn’t let Dirty Delete go out there by herself. I don’t trust dogs to be around little kids alone and they are unpredictable. Your neighbors should have some courtesy because they are putting you in a difficult situation.

Post # 6
5958 posts
Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: April 2018

@legenwaitforitdary:  I hate to be the voice of doom, but saying something to this lady would just make things worse, after all. It’s their yard and I if they wanna roast a pig back there you have nothing to say about it.  Those are your dogs, either stay aout there while they’re out or build a privacy fence.  good fences make good neighbors.

Post # 7
691 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: June 2013

This would drive me crazy. I don’t think I played outside alone until around age 5. But… Agree with 


Post # 10
9142 posts
Buzzing Beekeeper
  • Wedding: November 2013 - St. Augustine Beach, FL

Do you think the child is being left out there for an unreasonable period of time?  Or while the parents are gone from the house?  If so, call local child protective services.

Otherwise, mind your own business and fix any holes in the fence.

Post # 11
4439 posts
Honey bee
  • Wedding: January 2013 - Harbourfront Grand Hall

@legenwaitforitdary:  They sound like irresponsible parents so I don’t think talking to them is going to do any good.  Personally I would put up a secondary fence so that the kid can’t reach his hands through the current one to your dogs.


It may sound extreme, but you don’t want your dogs to have a bite record nor do you want that child to get hurt.

Post # 13
9142 posts
Buzzing Beekeeper
  • Wedding: November 2013 - St. Augustine Beach, FL

A visit from child services may encourage her to keep her child inside the house more often.  I personally view tossing a 3 year out to play alone in the backyard to be neglect at the very least.  There are too many things that could go wrong while mom is enjoying her personal time in the house.  But who knows?  Mom could be watching the child out of the window.

Post # 14
272 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: April 2014

I would go talk to the parents and just state out of concern you’d appreciate it if she would speak to her child about not sticking his hand through the fence/trying to touch unfamiliar dogs without an adult because you don’t want him to get hurt.


Any opinions you have about her leaving her child in the backyard to play I would keep to yourself. Unless the child is in immediate harm it’s not worth it to have a bad relationship with your neighbors. No relationship is better than a bad one, trust me.

Post # 15
10367 posts
Sugar Beekeeper
  • Wedding: September 2010

I say fix the fence (if that section of the fence is “yours”) so that a kid can’t reach through. If it’s chain link, I think you should consider it time for a visual and functional upgrade, and get a new fence.

I also think you should talk to the mom, and try and be gentle about it (so that she doesn’t get defensive/it doesn’t backfire). She needs to know that her son is doing something risky. I wouldn’t phrase it as “I think my dogs might bite him”, i’d connect with her as a dog lover and just say that even though biting hasn’t been a problem in the past, you’re worried that her son sticking his hand into the dog’s territory has potential for a territory issue between the dogs.

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