Post # 1
This morning I found a note on my door from my duplex neighbor (upstairs unit) and he was asking if he could spend time with my dog. His note says that he has anxiety and being around pets helps calm him down. He’s a college student so he doesn’t have one of his own. He offered to pet sit while I’m at work, take her for walks, or just play with her. He said that he would watch her in his apartment, so I’m not worried about him robbing me. I really don’t know him though. We have never said much more to each other than “Hello” in passing.
I’m kind of nervous about this. My dog is only a year old and honestly isn’t super disciplined. I’d let them meet before I ever left her with him but where would my liability be if she broke something of his or bit him? What if she gets out while he’s watching her? I know that people hire dog walkers all the time but I’m just so uneasy letting someone be around my baby without me there lol.
Any advice, please?
Post # 2
I wouldn’t allow that but i would possibly be open to all three of you spending time together. Like going for a walk or letting him play with your pup at the park while you sit on a bench and watch/relax. Perhaps over time you will then know him, like him and trust him enough to spend alone time with your pup which may give you a little break.
Post # 3
Agree with PP. The only thing is it would take me a very, very long time for me trust him to be alone with my dog!
Post # 4
I had a friend whose dog passed away and she liked to come over to my house and hang out with my dogs. It helped her a lot. The difference is I knew her well. Very well. She was in school and in the process of moving and I’d let her go to my house (while DH and I were at work) and and use our Wifi, watch TV, hang with my dogs. For a couple months she practically lived there and only left to sleep at her place.
If it were a stranger idk what I’d do. Maybe get to know him and in time he will become a good friend to have around.
Post # 5
I personally wouldn’t do it. My pups are my babies and I wouldn’t leave my babies with a stranger. I agree with what a PP said IF you want to do that. You could all 3 hang out together. I wonder why he doesn’t get his own dog?
Post # 6
This is a bizarre and frankly inappropriate request for a stranger to make, and if I were you, to be honest I would probably politely say it wasn’t possible. You don’t need to give a reason, just “I’m sorry, but it just won’t be possible” is enough.
To be honest, it seems like your neighbor may not understand appropriate boundaries, and leaving my pet in his care or spending time alone with him (and my dog) would make me uncomfortable. If your neighbor has anxiety issues that indicate a pet or a service/emotional support animal, he needs to get one of his own–not ask random people if he can borrow theirs (???).
Edit: Like @rubyrane’s story, I think this would be a totally different issue if you were good friends with this person.
Post # 7
I like leekissesme‘s suggestion. You can go to a dog park (or wherever) together, and maybe you can read or just relax while he plays with the dog. That way you’re present (for both you and your dog’s comfort).
My thought is that if you (and the dog) get to know him over time this way, then you have a good emergency backup/pet sitter in your complex if you suddenly need help with the dog. Or, if you find that you like/trust the guy after awhile (and your dog does, too), then you could allow him to help you out as a dog walker. On the flip side, if it doesn’t work out for any of you (you, neighbor, dog), no harm done.
Post # 8
I like this idea. I think that will be my first step. I really feel for the guy – he obviously felt pretty desperate for a pet since it’s such a bold request. It’s just weird to me that he never once asked to watch a movie, get drinks, play a board game or something with me or my boyfriend (who lives with me) but he straight up wants to hang out with my dog? Haha.
Post # 9
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I wouldn’t feel comfortable at all with it. It’s a shame because he could be completely truthful and just want a fur-friend for anxiety- but there are way too many instances of psycho’s out there who want to hurt animals. I would have to say no.
Post # 10
I thought that too! Like, he lives in my building so he couldn’t go anywhere but it would just take one thing to hurt my puppy or for him to claim she bit him. He is from a different state so he probably doesn’t know anyone or have family around here so I really get his point but it’s just so risky.
Post # 11
I would hang out the three of you and feel it out. Like take him to the park so you can see how he interacts with your dog. He says he has anxiety so maybe that is why he hasnt been the most social person with you directly. He is a 18-19 year old college kid that wants to chill with your dog. Unless you get some creepy vides from him Im not seeing a huge issue with it.
I have a neighbor who is developmentally disabled, she is at home all day and cant handle a job. I really appreciate it when she comes over into our backyard during the day to hang out with my dog, she gives him some treats and loves. She is a big hugger and loves hugging him. I dont mind her doing so and I know my dog enjoys some company and pets during the day.
Post # 12
I think if he suffers from anxiety, it might explain why he left a note instead of asking you and your boyfriend to hang out. I like the first posts suggestion of you going to the park or walking the dog together untill you are comfortable.
I’m a big believer in how beneficial it can be to have a neighbor looking out for you. A positive result of this is you could all become friends or at least friendly in a neighborly sense. Good luck!
Post # 13
Um… does anyone see the similarities here to the tv show Wilford?
Post # 14
OMG. Yes! And this kid smokes pot (I can smell it). I can’t imagine this is a joke but how strange.
Post # 15
It’s definitely nice to have a nearby neighbor that your dog is comfortable with. If for any reason you & BF get delayed or are stuck out late somewhere a quick call to ask the neighbor to take pup for a walk/give her some attention is so so handy. We’re actually actively working on getting our pup well acquainted with our neighbor for exactly this reason 🙂
I would invite him down for a chat and be upfront that you’re on the fence about the situation and you’d like to get to know him better and see how your pup likes him before making any decisions. You should be able to get a read on him pretty quickly based on how he interacts with your dog.
Plus having an in-home dog-boarding situation for if you ever go out of town that is potentially free and literally upstairs to you, that would be an awesome resource!