Post # 1
We live in a brownstone, 3 unit home. Landlord lives on floors 1 & 2 and the 3rd floor has been split into 2 apartments. My FI and I live in one and a family of 5(!) live in the other (2 parents and 3 little girls, oldest one is 8)
They got their court-ordered eviction – they are 5 months behind on rent and have contracted bedbugs twice since living here in 10 years (both times never told myself or the landlord and ended up spreading their infestation to the entire house.) They are lovely people but irresponsible with this bedbug nonsence – probably because they know the landlords hate them for never paying rent and they don’t want to get evicted.
Now they have a court-ordered eviction but still aren’t moving – they don’t have any money to move and project housing is not available *they are waiting for a unit to open* I just found out that Child Protective Services called our landlord to ask him if they’ve ever seen the state of these kids. So now shit is serious. I’ve seen these kids and though the conditions of the house are not good – the kids are well fed, play and attend school. It’s just that the parents don’t have enough money to make ends meet.
I know it’s not our problem but what would you do? I was thinking of sneaking a grocery store gift card in their mailbox just to help them out. Honestly – what would you do? Words of comfort or encouragement?
Post # 3
If you want to slip an anonymous gift card or something in their mailbox, sure. Otherwise I’d stay out of it. You don’t want to involve yourself and end up in an uncomfortable situation where they’re now asking you for money, or a place to stay.
Post # 4
I agree – stay out of it if you can. If you guys really want to help, I’d offer to babysit or bring them a homecooked meal (like an easy lasagna or something). BUT It all depends on the circumstances. For example, are they in this situation becasue of a huge bad-luck streak (job loss, med bills, etc)? Or, are they in this situation becasue they were irresponsible with their money? You might not know, but if it’s the latter, you might be involving yourself in a position you don’t need/want to be in.
Post # 5
@skippydarling: I think a grocery gift card would be a lovely thing to do.
Do the parents work?
Post # 7
That’s a nice thought, but if they’re in this deep, I’d be worried they’d see you compassion as an opportunity and ask for more, putting you in a bad position. Sorry to say, but sometimes generosity backfires. I think as long as they don’t know it’s you it would be okay. Sorry to hear they’re in such dire straits.
Post # 8
@Zhabeego: The man works and the mom stays at home. There is no way they could afford day care. The grandma comes over and helps them out with childcare as well. I don’t really know the situation 100%.
I think the MOST I would be comfy doing would be an anony grocery gift card. It could get very awkward