- 7 years ago
So last night my Darling Husband and I got into a lovely fight where we were yelling about finances, and stupid shit. So yes we were pretty loud, and yes this fight took place from in between the 8:30-9:30 pm range. And yes, I know yelling fights aren’t really the healthiest, but are we really the only people who do it when we get super stressed out? We use to yell a lot, but we’ve started to get a lot better about it and it really only happens on random occasions.
At one point he bumped into me when we were cleaning up for the night and yelling and I yelled owe and started crying, more or less because of the stress and the fight than actually being hurt… seriously he bumped into me with his elbow when putting away laundry… and I’m a big emotional baby when we’re fighting so I could have tripped on a shoe at that point and would still have yelled owe and started crying.
Next thing you know I’m hanging out in the bathroom of our loft style apartment (it has stairs in it so it’s like a seperate floor) talking to my mom on the phone when someones knocking at the door. I come from a big city initially in which you don’t open your door unless you had someone coming over that you knew about. Now we live in a country-esk area, but I’m still to scared to open the door to strangers lol.
Well someone was banging and my husband opened the door, and next thing you know I’m called down the stairs and confronted by two police officers. In which case I had to nearly sit down since I was pretty much in shock that police were inside our apartment. This was 9:45 p.m., I was tired and in pjs, and the police began telling me that we live in a paper thin apartment and the neighbors heard everything and they started interegating me as to whether Darling Husband had hit me. Because the neighbors called 911 and said I was being beaten. If they really heard everything, than why on earth did they think I was being beaten!?
The police took our IDs and took down our information and I found myself telling the whole sob story of my life in the current economy as I cried and had a police officer trying to console me. They told us to be careful in how loud we were because everyone can hear everything.
So maybe this is mostly a rant or a vent, since it stressed me out beyond belief and I had to take sleeping pills last night… I’m a good person, the only other time I’ve ever even really spoke to police was during car accidents. This is not the norm. No we’re not in an abusive relationship, and no I’m not afraid of telling someone the truth.
I do tell the truth when I say it was just an immature fight between a newly married young couple in a very tough economy. A part of me feels violated that I got into a fight with my husband in which others overheard, but the bigger part was that the police were then called into my home for something which wasn’t hurting anyone and was our own person buisness. It’s great that the police are there for women or men in an abusive situation, but its embarresing when it’s not an abusive situation.
Has this happened to anyone before? Why do they take down your info? Will Darling Husband be in trouble? They didn’t say anything about that.They told Darling Husband that he didn’t look like the abusive type and that I could call them if I needed help.
If anything this taught me a lesson that I need to be a little more mature when we’re in a disagreement. And that my neighbors seriously need to take a chill pill, I’m glad that they were concerned about me… but still.