Post # 62
This really isn’t even an issues with the crying baby and you have had peace for 4 years and now you don’t. And really it is not your place to judge the fact they live there.
Your LANDLORD has a responsibility to make sure you are comfortable living there. The parents of the crying baby don’t. And, with the same token, you don’t have to feel bad for them as they were the ones who wanted to bring a LO into this world. That’s fine.
I know you said your landlord won’t do anything about it, but that’s really the only way to go about it or to do something yourself with soundproofing methods.
Post # 63
- Wedding: August 2012 - Sunset Harbour
Your post makes me twitchy….
- you can’t compare a barking dog to an infant. You can train a dog not to bark, you cannot train a baby not to cry.
- So you lead paint is perfectly fine for you – but the other adults are idiots for being there? Come on now…
- If anyone blasted music against a wall when I already had a wailing baby to deal with – I would make your life a living nightmare.
I feel pretty sorry for your neighbors having to deal with your attitude.
Post # 64
I’m not sure what I want them to do either, that’s why I came here, for any suggestions. I understand a crying baby isn’t like asking them to turn down the tv, so I came here to see if anyone had anything helpful to add. Maybe there isn’t anything to be done, but I don’t see where it hurts to ask.
Post # 65
A single man lived above me before the woman (and her boyfriend) who lives there now. We never heard a peep out of him. Shortly after he moved out, water started coming down through the walls and leaking onto our floors. It turned out that when the man moved out, he had left the AC down on 40, and as a result of running all day, it started to leak and flooded a lot of the apartment. Maintenance had to replace all the flooring up there, and our theory is that they put in much thinner carpet/less insulation than was up there before, and that is why we can hear everything this woman does now compared to the man who lived there before her. So it might not be that this family is any louder than the previous tenants, but rather that something might have changed in the apartment itself.
I do sympathize with you–when baby cries, nobody wins. But, as others have said, your only options are talking to your landlord, making soundproofing efforts on your own in your apartment, or talking (calmly, rationally, kindly!) to the parents, and even then I doubt anything will change. Just please don’t be mean to your neighbors–I’m sure they’re doing everything they can, and making them feel like everyone around them hates them and their baby and wishes they would leave won’t help anyone.
Post # 66
Okay, fair enough. Unfortunately, there may not be much else they can do.
I think the first course of action should be seeing what you can do in your home to try to drown out the noise. You’ve gotten lots of good suggestions about that, so hopefully some of those work and you don’t need to involve your neighbors.
If none of the changes in your own home work, and you want to talk to your neighbors, I think that can be okay but it will be very important to try to be understanding while doing that. If you go in with an attitude that they’ve done something wrong, then it’s likely to sound accusatory and end in them getting defensive. And in the end, you don’t have any way to make them stop the noise, so you don’t solve the problem and end up with pissed off neighbors.
On the other hand, if you go in with an attitude of, how can we work together to try to help solve this problem, you’re likely to have better results. So I think it would help if you can get in the frame of mind that they haven’t done anything wrong and you haven’t done anything wrong, but it’s turned into an unfortunate situtation so how can you work together to make it better.
I get that it’s super annoying. I’ve lived in apartments with awful neighbors. It sucks and can make your whole life feel stresed. But think about what you want and the best way to achieve that. Pissing off your neighbors might make you feel good in the short term, but it helps neither of you and just makes the situation worse.
Post # 67
I can’t believe some people think blasting loud music at the wall is a good idea. How mature! If someone did that to me I’d probably call the police on them, so that certainly doesn’t solve anything and just makes things worse.
Unfortunately, apartments come with noises from your neighbors. If you don’t like it, move. This really isn’t your fault or the parents fault, it’s the apartment/landlord for not providing adequate insulation. The parents aren’t doing anything wrong but you have every right to be irritated by the lack of insulation.
I think the only thing you can do is try to nicely talk to them about it, maybe they can move the crib to a different wall or even switch rooms. Probably depends on the layouts if it would help any. Otherwise I’d just suck it up and deal with it and move somewhere better as soon as you can…and probably not an apartment.
Post # 68
I don’t have any advice but I know how you feel! We live in an upstairs apartment and the people below us have 2 young children and a baby that is always crying! And the kids seem like they are always running around at odd hours… We thought that living upstairs instead of downstairs would mean less noise, plus we have carpet- but those baby cries travel for miles it seems haha
Post # 69
There is nothing you can do about it. Maybe it’s time to move if you don’t like It. Some of your comments made me not feel bad for you anymore!
Post # 70
I feel like opinions are going to vary differently depending on if the bee is a parent or not.
The age old divide..