(Closed) Neighbors tresspassing- what would you do?

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Post # 3
379 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: July 2011

call the police everytime they come over.

Post # 4
4566 posts
Honey bee
  • Wedding: August 2010

I second calling the police. You also have GOT to make sure you talk to the parents about the fact that you have a pool in your backyard. If those kids accidently drown in it, you could be held liable even though you’ve told them before to stay off. Best bet would be to tell the police.

Or get a restraining order, lol.

Post # 5
541 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: September 2011

I third calling the police, and maybe taking pictures of them in the yard so you have backup.  I know they aren’t pretty, but maybe no trespassing signs, too, so in case something does happen you can show that you did pretty much everything possible.

Post # 6
2867 posts
Sugar bee

Actually this is a very serious issue.  You will be held liable for them tresspassing and getting injured.  Call the police EVERY time they come on your property.

Post # 7
610 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: October 2011

I think you should talk to the parents first. Be friendly and neighborly about it, say you know if your kids’ ball comes in our yard, just come knock on our door. We’ll get it for you. But please don’t jump over the fence, because we do have a dog, and I don’t want you guys getting hurt in the process.

Document when you talk to them, and if it happens again, then get the police involved.

Post # 8
1569 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: March 1996

I’d take one more shot at talking to the parents, making it clear that you’re concerned for the kids’ safety and as a result will be calling the police the next time they set foot on your property. If any of the kids had been struck by the basketball hoop when it fell, you would have been liable for some very expensive medical bills, and if they fall in your pool it’ll be the same situation.

Post # 9
955 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: April 2011

I would definitly talk to the parents again and make sure they understand where you are coming from as far as safety. Be the more responible person. It might be a weird or uncomfortable conversation but if you plan on living there awhile I would think you would want to be on good terms with your neighbors. Once you start calling the police you can’t go back. IMO. It usually turns ugly and then they will call the police on you for every little thing. I think it would turn into a lot of drama.

Post # 10
5822 posts
Bee Keeper

The thing is, the parents obviously are trying to put you on the defensive when their kids are in the wrong.  I would go over and talk to them and be very blunt.  Tell them that you are very upset that they were playing basketball on your property without permission.  And you are very upset they broke the basketball hoop.  You are upset the parents did not correct the problem as promised.  And now you are finding them jumping the fence (which by the way is considered breaking and entering if you have a locked gate) and that you want to make it clear that they are NOT welcome on your property AT ALL.  If their ball goes over the fence they MUST knock on your door and ask you to get it.  You have a dog and a pool, both of which you want to keep away from them, THUS THE FENCE.  If you wanted people in your yard, you wouldn’t have a fence in the first place.

After your talk, type out everything that was said during the conversation and make sure to include their responses.  Print it out, then mail a copy of it to them using delivery confirmation.  The letter should say something like:

“I wanted to make sure were were clear on the points we discussed including [x,y,z] to which you responded [p,d,q].”

Next you need to post signs on your property.  “No trespassing” and “Beware of Dog” signs, at every entrance point and “wall” of your property.

This is basically a CYA issue.  If they do it again, call the cops on them.  I would warn them before you do this.  Specifically tell them you will call the police and report them trespassing if you find them doing it again.

On the one hand you don’t want to start anything, but on the other hand, they started it already.  There’s already not a very neighborly atmosphere, so you wouldn’t be deteriorating relationship since you don’t have one.  This guy reported you to the city???  Screw him and his family.

PS-My brothers and I used to jump my neighbor’s fence all the time and she was upset about it too.  She told my parents about it, and they told us not to.  But if she had offered to give the balls back to us (instead of giving them to her grandkids) we would have just knocked on her door instead.

Post # 11
3219 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: November 2010

@MightySapphire: I was hoping you were going to respond to this thread! I agree with everything you have said.

I would post signs ASAP and make sure they know you will be calling the police if they keep coming over. some people you just to be to be stern with and let them know what is up.

Post # 12
409 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: October 2012

When I lived in brooklyn, I walked past a house everyday that had a sign posted.  It said something to the effect of “we love your kids and don’t mind them playing on our driveway, but if they get hurt on our property, we are not liable”  don’t know if it really doesn’t make them liable, but I am thinking that maybe because it is a posted sign, it is?  Kind of like signs that you see at places that say “we are not responsible for lost or stolen property”

It puts everything up front.


Post # 13
7689 posts
Bumble Beekeeper

Just wondering if you have a locked gated fence around the pool.  And also, is your pool covered or otherwise unaccessible-besides the fence? That would be terrible if a kid drowned in your pool! -for everybody!! 

Post # 14
403 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: August 2010

Document everything that happened/happens, with the date and time that it happened/happens. This includes all conversations, the complaints against you and every incident of trespassing. Put up signs as soon as possible. It wouldn’t be a bad idea to let the neighbors know that you do not want their kids trespassing (nicely or firmly, however you want), and that from now on you will call the police if it happens again.

Most importantly — call the police with each and every incident. They might not even need to come out to get a report, you may be able to do it over the phone. But you want to build the case that you are doing everything you can to stop them from trespassing. It will help protect you from liability if those idiots hurt themselves on your property.

Good luck with everything! I hope they stop.

Post # 16
711 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: May 2010

It just sounds like these neighbours are going to be a little less friendly than you would like. I think your husband was in the right by calmly talking to the father, but unfortunately some people are just extremely defensive. I agree with the other posters that you should document everything. I would still try to be civil when speaking with your neighbours, even if they arent because it will always reflect better on you, especially if it ever gets lega. It’s too bad that they are acting this way – hope it all works out!

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