(Closed) Neighbour charged me for stuff!

posted 6 years ago in Etiquette
  • poll: Should she have charged me?

    yes

    no

  • Post # 46
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    Busy bee

    I can’t believe that 3 people voted Yes to your poll question – they may have misunderstood.

    In any case, of course I have to agree with PPs, EXCEPT I would say that for your mom’s sake maybe do consider paying her.  She is wrong, wrong, SO wrong, and does not deserve a cent – that being said, it probably is advisable to try to speak to her nicely and rationally about it, BUT, if (when?) that does not work, then pay her just to keep the peace.  Seriously, this lady is nuts to begin with, you don’t want to mess with nutso people as you never know how they will react and sometimes you have to do something like pay this ridiculous bill, just to keep anything from escalating.  I think that CakeSniffer gave good advice, though honestly you have every right to be pissed, I would not let on that, just try to handle this nicely and rationally with her first, and if she is still insistent that she get paid for this nonsense then pay her and be done with her self-important ass.  What a loser.  (No, your comment was not nice but who would feel all that charitable towards someone like that now anyway?  I mean what nerve this B has!)

    Post # 47
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    Helper bee
    • Wedding: December 1969

    What a weird twat

    Post # 48
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    Helper bee
    • Wedding: December 1969

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    stefzbee:  Or send her a bill for the exact amount she is requesting!! hahaa

    Post # 49
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    Helper bee
    • Wedding: February 2016

    If I were you I would probably pay her some portion of the bill after talking to her about it. I absolutely would not just pay it and shut my mouth though, I think I would explode! I would go over and go through each item with her and work out a fair price based on the fact that you did half the work and shouldn’t pay for your own labor. I would also while trying to be civilized explain that this is a terrible way to “do business” and that at least if you had used the other people you would have had an idea going in of cost and not been essentially tricked while you were under the impression she was a friend helping you out in her spare time.

    Post # 50
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    Sugar bee
    • Wedding: September 2014

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    niki2015:  yeah, if there is no contract, you don’t owe her a penny. What a scam artist!

    Post # 51
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    Helper bee
    • Wedding: December 1969

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    weddingmaven:  Ya cant believe she deducted the “charge” for the wedding gift. That just shows who she is right there.

    Post # 52
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    Bumble bee

    It sounds like your neighbor helped you out A LOT!  Like…woah! 

    If it were me, I’d have a chat with her.  Let her know that you do/did not have a budget for wedding decor and that’s why you were doing them DIY.  You understood her helping out to be a favor and you are grateful for the help.  I’d let her know that your intentions were to give her a gift to show her your gratitude, but you could also gift her the cash value of the gift if she prefers.

    I personally wouldn’t put anything in writing.  No thank you cards etc.  She seems like the kind who would try to use it as evidence lol.

    Good Luck

    Post # 53
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    Busy bee
    • Wedding: March 2016

    LOL. What a great business model. I’m going to start being bossy and giving people unsolicited advice and then charge them for “guidance.” 

    It might be one thing if you asked for her help, but you didn’t! She butted her nose in where it didn’t belong and expects to be paid for it. No way.

    Post # 56
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    Bumble bee

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    niki2015:  Doesn’t sound like a good plan at all 🙁  Sorry OP.

    Post # 58
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    Bumble bee
    • Wedding: August 2015

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    niki2015:  I feel like you’re rewarding her terrible behavior by not only paying her the ridiculous amount she asked but adding on money she had ‘deducted’ just because. Not something I would ever do because I feel like people only treat you the way you allow them to. Being the bigger person doesn’t mean letting someone take advantage of you. I hope it works out for you.

    Post # 59
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    Busy bee

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    niki2015:  No, you are not a bad person, none of us would feel any differently after being treated that way.  Seriously, I am fuming FOR you.  You have a wedding coming up, I’m sure that you are stressed out enough and do you really have extra funds available?  Plus, you never asked for her to butt in and be all uppity about it, and she charged you for shit that YOU even did!  I think that your plan is wise, just pay it and be done with her – you could in fact insist on not paying her but I don’t know, I get a bad feeling about this woman, and especially if she is alone and as strange as she is, you really never know how she is going to react, I’ve seen terrible things happen to people for less, unfortunately, over disputes with nutty neighbours.

    Post # 60
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    Buzzing bee

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    niki2015:  omg do not pay her! ridiculous.

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