Post # 46
i would cut her off personally. I dont see how you could be friends with someone who seems to hate that your married and having children. Eventually you will reach a point especially if she is so against children that you will have nothing in common.
A kid changes everything. I love my friends, but i dont see my non children friends nearly as much anymore. Its just how it is. A baby really does change everything, especially if you have a friend who hates kids.
Post # 47
So I’ve been really reevaluating our friendship because as a lot of you pointed out, things are only going to get more hectic. She’s either along for the ride or she not. I figured I’d give her some space. She did text me an apology last night, but it was more about her than anything. I don’t want to copy and paste it, but it basically said that she was just “shocked” and she could tell she made me uncomfortable. She then talked about how bearing about how babies develop and then getting compared to fruit creeps her out and she asked why they can’t use things like “marbles” for reference. “Why food?”
so I just let her know this is a very happy time for me and my husband. I said I’m not going to reach out to her to let her know details but if she asks, I’ll update her. But she needs to understand that yes, our friendship will change but it’s natural: I will have a baby. I DO want to give her a chance through the pregnancy but if she really isnt present during the pregnancy, I’m just gonna take it as this is too much for her and I’m done. At this point, I won’t be hurt or surprised if she continues with her behavior.
Post # 48
It’s not often I would decide that someone sounds like a fundamentally ‘bad’ person, but I think her reaction would be disgusting and unacceptable to a total stranger, let alone to a friend, let alone to a BEST FRIEND. The fact that she had it in her to react how she did and say what she said makes me think she is just truly bad.