Nerves at the altar

posted 2 years ago in Ceremony
Post # 2
2004 posts
Buzzing bee

I totally get your nervousness! Maybe just try to just focus on walking down the aisle and look at your fiancé the whole time. Kind of a tunnel vision if you will. Try to block out the crowd and just focus on your fiancé’s smiling face and take in the moment! That’s what I would do. 

In the moment, take a deep, steadying breath and remember: you look beautiful, you are entering a room full of love and support, and your fiancé will be up there too! You won’t be up there alone 🙂 hope this helps a little

Post # 3
179 posts
Blushing bee
  • Wedding: March 2019

I just got married two weeks ago and this was my greatest fear! I was worried I wouldn’t even be able to read my vows because my hands/voice would be shaking so much. I was definitely very nervous as I was about to start walking but as I got closer (I had a bit of a walk to get to the actual aisle where everyone was) all I could think about was how excited I was to see my husband! Everything else kind of fell away and I barely even noticed everyone there. I was still nervous and shaky of course, but managed to get through my vows far better than expected! 

There is also something about being surrounded by so much love, support and joy that makes you feel reassured 🙂 

I’m sure your experience will be similar, good luck 🙂 

Post # 4
1027 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: September 2018

Get a good night’s sleep and aim to avoid time pressure in the morning. I have lots of friends who were up really late, or were running out of time, and it made everything more stressful. I was really glad I prioritised those things. I was worried I’d cry through the whole ceremony, but in the end I was so chilled and happy to see everyone I loved that I needn’t have worried. 

Post # 5
85 posts
Worker bee
  • Wedding: July 2019 - City, State

This is why we’re having a tiny ceremony (less than 10 people) and a bigger reception lol. Neither of us likes being the center of attention, but having less people there will help us be more in the moment. Good luck!

Post # 6
8363 posts
Bumble Beekeeper
  • Wedding: Dorset, UK

Commenting to follow as I get married in 7 days and I am getting so nervous and anxious! 

Post # 7
1651 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: June 2017 - A vineyard

I have really bad anxiety and had a wedding full of people I had never met before except to speak to once at dinner the night before. So basically I was laser focused on my husband and the officiant. I didn’t look at all at anywhere else. Doing this I was able to get through the ceremony and the reception. 

Post # 8
354 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: Canada

I have really bad social anxiety and I literally dreaded my wedding day for like 20 years lol.  I just did NOT want to be the centre of attention and was convinced that I’d be a blushing fool and embarrass myself.  But the day came and it was AMAZING.  As pp said, there’s something about being surrounded with the people you love and knowing that they’re all supporting you.  Honestly, I think we build it all up in our heads and psych ourselves out.  Try some positive affirmations.  Your day will be beautiful!

Post # 9
136 posts
Blushing bee
  • Wedding: September 2018

I am so like this as well, and I was terrified of being the center of attention. My anxiety was through the roof. The wedding planner had to practically shove me to the start of the aisle because I was freaking out so bad. I don’t even remember my walk down the aisle because I was so anxious lol. BUT … the second I got up there to my husband, he was all I could see or think about. I totally forgot there were 150 people sitting there watching us. I had been so nervous about reading my vows, but I forgot those people were even there. I just read them to him. It was the happiest I have ever been and it will be that way for you too!!!! Promise! As soon as you see your man standing there and he takes your hand, you will forget everyone else. 

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