(Closed) Nervous about announcing engagement.. am I crazy?

posted 6 years ago in Emotional
Post # 3
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592 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: November 2012

All of your worries are valid.  In my experience, the first two months of my engagement was an emotional rollercoaster.  All the questions, excitement, jealousy, etc can wear on you.  Just try not to take it to heart…it will get better the longer you’re engaged.  Good luck!

Post # 4
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3305 posts
Sugar bee

You will get through it- come on here to vent and get your feelings out.

Post # 5
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3697 posts
Sugar bee

@dcgirl655:  Maybe just don’t make an announcement at work? You’re not obligated to invite co-workers, especially under your circumstances – if you’re new at the office, just starting out, not close to anybody and apprehensive that you’ll get flak for it, well, then, your co-workers have kind of proven that they neither need nor deserve to know.

If you’re worried that a ring will get their attention, you could take it off for work, or turn the stone inward … if they remark on it, you can just say, “Yes, I’m engaged, we’re keeping everything really small and low-key.” Even if that’s not strictly true where family and friends are concerned, it shows that you’re focused on work while you’re at work.

Post # 6
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: December 2010

@dcgirl655:  You’re not alone.  I think that a lot of people feel this way.  I was SO excited to marry my Darling Husband, but I wasn’t expecting the IMMEDIATE questions about wedding timelines, bridal parties, etc.  The stress, anxiety, etc. started right away.  The whole process isn’t about planning a party.  It’s about working together with your Fiance, family and friends.  It isn’t always fun and I think that the wedding industry does brides, in particular, a huge disservice by pretending that the whole thing is rainbows and romance.  I read a lot of The Conscious Bride and it really did make me feel like my feelings were normal.  You’re separating from your birth family to form a new family, with connections to the old…there is going to be some mourning for that and it’s okay.

If you can, don’t start planning immediately.  Just take time to enjoy the engagement time.  Tell people that you’re not making any decisions for a while (I’d be up front about it because they are going to ask).  Don’t worry about letting people know at work formally.  

It’s going to be okay and it’s definitely going to be fun.  Just know that negative or scared feelings are normal.

Post # 7
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19 posts
Newbee
  • Wedding: August 2012

I was super excited to tell my family and his, but work was another story. We got engaged after I had only been there about a month. I told my immediate supervisor, but no one else. Over time the news has spread, but I’d be willing to bet there are people at my office who still don’t know! I don’t think you need to make an announcement at work, unless you really want to.

Post # 8
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Honey bee
  • Wedding: June 2013

I did a newspaper engagement and had people from work actually cut out the column and hand it to me if I needed extras for family members.  MALE co-workers actually did this…I had people congratulate me for a few weeks.

We are not on a budget, but have a long engagement, He proposed last May 3rd.  I was stressed hearing “OH YOU HAVE SOOO MUCH TIME” “WOW…” “THAT’S IN WHAT, 2 YEARS?”

I think you’re thinking too much…don’t worry about it!

Post # 10
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Newbee
  • Wedding: August 2013

I can completely relate to being nervous about everyting wedding-related, but here’s my advice: Stop focusing on the negative, and enjoy the fact that you are getting engaged, and that you get to marry the love of your life! I know that sounds obvious, but once you shift your focus, everything becomes much better and less anxiety-inducing 🙂 

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