Post # 1
I have a sneaking suspicion (as in I know for sure) that my BF is about to propose, but I know that our families both think we’re too young to get engaged. I know that it’s the right step for us, despite being young (we’re both 23).
I’m really nervous about announcing the engagement and no one being happy for us. Any advice from those who have gone through this?
Post # 2
I don’t think 23 is that young to get engaged , at least it’s not where I live. I was 21 when I got engaged and I was a little worried people would say something about my age but they didn’t. Try not to sweat it! Right after we got engaged was such a sweet and special time in our relationship so enjoy it!
Post # 3
I don’t think 23 is too young either, that’s how old we both were when we got engaged last year! Do you really think that your families feel so strongly as to actually not be happy for you? I don’t think we got any comments (directly) about being too young, at least not from the people who mattered! At the end of the day, it really just matters how you two feel about it. But I really hope that they get over it and are genuinely happy for you, and congatulations on your upcoming proposal! xx
Post # 4
Maybe your family will surprise you. Have you been seeing each other for a while? Your family might even expect it if you’ve been together a long time.
If they’re not happy, it might just be surprise. Don’t argue with them about it. Let your happiness and confidence in your choice do the talking for you. Give them time, and they’ll eventually see it your way and get excited for you if they love you and see that you are happy.
Post # 5
It does sound young to me (I’m in a big city where the average age for first marriage is 30), but it’s not crazy. If you are worried about people being skeptical, though, or feel weird about it yourself, why not suggest a long engagement? If you agree to be engaged for a 2+ years, then perhaps that will make your families feel more secure that you’re not rushing into things.
Post # 6
I was engaged once before now, and both times, the reaction was sort of meh. I was 18 the first time I got engaged, so people thought I was too young (I was, admittedly!). All you really can do is tune any naysayers out, focus on talking to people who support your choice to get engaged (you’re bound to have at least a few), and know that when you’re celebrating your 10th wedding anniversary, you’ll be having the last laugh.
Post # 7
We’ve been together for four years now and have been completely financially independent from any family that whole time. I think that my parents are expecting it (they see us more often so they’re familiar with us as a couple). His parents, however, are desperately trying to keep him dependent on them and are trying to convince us both to move in with them now that we’ve graduated college. They treat us like kids, so I’m worried they’re not going to be optimistic about this milestone.
In my heart, I know it’ll all be fine, and even if it doesn’t go well our relationship isn’t going to be very affected. Thanks for all the responses!