(Closed) Nervous about Bachelorette Party

posted 6 years ago in Emotional
Post # 3
9917 posts
Buzzing Beekeeper
  • Wedding: June 2013

Not that I am pressuring you to do so, but why don’t you drink/dance?  


Regardless, I think you just need to go, and be yourself, and just have a good time.  Don’t let anyone pressure you into doing things you don’t want to do.  15 people is a huge group, so you’ll probably be able to talk quietly with one or two people.  When you all go to the club, get a glass of selzter or something with cranberry juice in it, in a glass that’s normally used to serve alcohol.  Then no one will question you about why you aren’t drinking.  

Post # 4
1844 posts
Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: May 2012

  I know how you feel. I do occasionally drink, but I am not comfortable with the whole bar/club scene. Would it be possible for you to go to the first half of the bachelorette party, but not the club part? Or even meet up with them back at the hotel room?

  If that’s not an option, then I agree with the PP. You can get cranberry with seltzer. I know how uncomfortable it is, but at least it is only one night. Try hard not to think about it too much. I find that when I overthink things, I tend to have a worse time.

Post # 6
9917 posts
Buzzing Beekeeper
  • Wedding: June 2013

I missed that it was your sister’s wedding.  I would ask if you could bring a friend along.  Your sister knows that you are shy, and might not mind.  

And a club sounds like the least fun thing in the world!  I hate crowds where everyone is pushing and dancing and the music is so loud.  Get me out of there!

Post # 7
853 posts
Busy bee

OP: You’re right —the only thing that matters is being there for your sister (and she already knows this, and is probably very appreciative that you are doing this, if she understands how uncomfortable the club scene makes you). That being said, I think that if these girls are all the party type, you can easily take a spot in the background without anyone noticing that you’re not drinking your face off. In my experience, when you’re out with a bunch of drunk rowdies, they don’t realize that other people are sober. If you just relax and be yourself, I don’t think you have anything to worry about. Just try to enjoy yourself, and remember that you don’t have to keep up with them all. If you ordered a pop in a highball glass, I doubt anyone would even question it.

Post # 8
105 posts
Blushing bee
  • Wedding: December 1969

If you look good you’ll feel good.  If you’re able, splurge and buy yourself a cute new outfit.  You’ll feel great about yourself and look cute sipping your mocktail from the sidelines. 

Also, if you’re like me (a real people pleaser) you might find you actually enjoy yourself most being the guardian of the purses while everyone dances or making sure your sister has a steady flow of cocktails, request songs from the DJ, etc.  Then you will stay busy and enjoy yourself a bit more then just sitting off to the side.  The others girls will be super grateful they can depend on you in their “altered” state. 🙂

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