Post # 1
It’s not a 100% surprise, as we’ve talked about our future together, but she by no means knows I am currently in the process of buying a ring. She has sent pics of rings she likes to a friend of ours, figuring (correctly) that someday I would probably mention ring-shopping to this mutual friend and then I could find out what kind of rings she likes without her knowing that I was indeed moving forward. So she definitely does want a surprise proposal (she in fact also told my sister to NOT tell her if she ever found out I was shopping for a ring).
I’ve been looking at rings in the .75-.9ish carat range. The reason is, my friend wrote this whole thing in the email when she forwarded me the ring pictures about how, “When we were messing around she put on my ring and said it looked totally ridiculous (1.01 ct) on her small hands.”
My concern is that is it possible she just said this as a compliment of the ring size of our friend? Or that she would get used to that size, and be happy that it was >1ct? If we lived anywhere but RIGHT outside NYC I probably wouldn’t worry about this, but in this area larger rings are common. I only know 2 of her friends ring sizes, one is a .75 ct and the other is the aforementioned 1.01 ct.
There will be a lot of “bling” on the setting itself..she liked these ones: http://tinyurl.com/9hx6ykw, http://tinyurl.com/8cd7fvv) and I have picked out this one after comparing to her sample pics, looking at it in person tomorrow to confirm and pick out a diamond: http://www.gabrielny.com/engaged/style/ER9943W44JJ . I am definitely going to get an ideal cut diamond, in fact at the .75-.93 carat size I can afford all except for the unneccessary adders like D/E color, VVS1, VVS2, as opposed to F/G and VS1/2 diamonds. I can get the best cuts out there for < $9K. She would not want me to spend more than $10K (she suggested 5-6K once when we had a brief conversation, but she also isn’t entirely knowledgeable about diamonds in general) and I would feel like a moron if the “totally ridiculous” size thing was true and she wanted something smaller.
I know we can always upgrade but I don’t want to be nervous the first day she wears the ring to work or to a party. Am I way overthinking this?? (I tend to do that!)
Post # 3
Yes, you are overthinking it. She is going to love it because SHE LOVES YOU. Look at how much thought you’re putting into this!!
I post my ring a lot.. so.. here it is again. Mine is less than a carat and I don’t think it looks too small at all. You be the judge. Here:
Just as a side note: I have fat fingers! I’m a size 8.5 and my stone is .70 carats. I also have a lot of bling on the setting itself. And I love it!
Post # 4
- Wedding: May 2013 - Pavilion overlooking golf course scenery, reception at banquet hall
Ooooh, when I was ring shopping I also looked at those two GNY settings. 🙂 If you are interested, this is the one I ultimately decided one (at about $1300 for platinum, iirc): http://www.uniquesettings.com/products/show/26769 And I was able to get a .75c, D, SI2 (eye clean), ideal, 0/0/0, hearts& arrows center stone ALL for less than $6k. The only reason I bring this up is because your budget is so much higher for similar qualities – I just wonder if you’re getting a good deal or not! I don’t really have a big point, but I’ll throw out the pricescope.com forums as a good reference.
Post # 5
Go with your .75 – .95 range 🙂 That’s going to be a beautiful ring!! It will be something she has forever and will not want to upgrade because its the ring you picked out for her!
Post # 6
- Wedding: January 2011 - Midland, TX
Is she wanting a round or a princess cut? 1ct princess cut will look like a .75 round. You are looking at the right specs on the diamonds. Mine is a G, VS2,1.02 princess celebration cut diamond and I have 3.5 finger size….We got it out the door $5600 on sale
Post # 7
@aggie2010: I’ve used PriceScope and I’m going with a recommended vendor of theirs. I am looking at Solasfera cuts and Hearts & Arrows, the .75 ct is down in your price range ($4.4kish for the stone) and I am looking at a .83 and a .91 (not a Solasfera) as well which pushes the stones in the $6k+ range for VS2 or better excellent/ideal everything. The .91 ct H&A has strong flourescence so that will take some inspecting.
Post # 8
Also look into Bluenile, you may find a good deal since it is online and you could always buy the diamond and put it in the setting.
Post # 9
I also have small hands, my ring size is a 4.5 and my fiance said he felt the same way about the carat size. his jeweller suggested that he break the carat up so it didnt look to heavy on my hand.
Post # 10
Sounds like a substantially sized, high quality stone… you’ve done your homework and it’ll show… I’m sure the ring will be truly beautiful!
I know what you mean about that area to live, but I doubt her comment was an empty compliment. There are so many other things she could have said to compliment the ring. I think if she said that, she was thinking that. Ask her sister, ask her mom, ask her other friends. Ideally, go with a vendor that gives you a window for exchanges/returns, just in case she really does dream of a honker. Then you’ve definitely got all your bases covered!
Post # 11
I think if she really wanted to compliment her friend’s ring she would have said that it was the size she always dreamed of, no? So I think she’s being honest when she says she thinks 1 carat looks too big on her finger. That said, I do think there’s a surprisingly big difference between a .75 and .9. And also between .9 and 1 carat. If you have the budget, I’d go for somewhere around .85 to 0.9.
I have small fingers (size 4) and my centre stone is 0.81 ideal cut.
Post # 12
1.02 carats, 3mm band, size 5 fingers! My Fiance got my diamond from Blue Nile. I like it!
Post # 13
The vendor I am going with does have a life time upgrade policy with extremely good “rules” regarding it (doesn’t have to double in price or anything). So I think I will go ahead confidently. If I don’t get it right the first time I still have her : )
Tomorrow I will see at least 3 types of stones, being a .75 carat ideal round, the .83 carat Solasfera round (hearts & arrows with more facets) and a .91 carat ideal round. So i will see all 3 sizes and 2 different “types” of sparkles. I’m feeling really good about the Solasfera, although each stone is a jump in size of 10%, and if the Solasfera looks really good but the .91 stone also looks good despite the strong flourescence rating, I’ll be in a conundrum!
Post # 14
I have a .75ct on 4.5 size finger.
Post # 15
@gswelec: I hope this (and your location) means you’re going to Good Old Gold? If so, they’re wonderful. My fiance proposed with one of their August Vintage Cushions. We spent a long time looking at shapes and settings, and he was so happy with their service.
Post # 16
I say get the full carat! No girl ever complains about her diamond being too big 😉 I’m sure she’ll love it because you picked it and were thoughtful enough to ask your mutual friend and get her the ring she likes – it’s so sweet!