Post # 1
Luckily our parents get along fine, we feel blessed for that. But the rest of the family I’m dreading for them to meet one another. I’m embarrassed of mine and he’s embarrassed of his. Mine are stuffy and rude. They gave him a hard time right to his face the first time he met them just because he never went to college. A grown man in his mid 20’s whom they’d never met, and they were lecturing him about college! Meanwhile he has a better job than both of my cousins who DID go to good colleges. Go figure. That’s just one example of the stuffiness… It goes beyond that.
His family, as described by him (I swear this is not coming from me, this is 100% his own words) are “a bunch of North Jersey hillbillies”. That’s pretty self explanatory. They’re, um, different from my family to say the least. I can hold my own around them but they are a rowdy clan.
My family is not devoutly religious, but they are very tolerant of other religions and we have a lot of interfaith marriages in our family.
His family is religious to the point of ignorance.
He’s just as nervous and embarrassed as I am, and we know there will be a lot of scoffing and eye rolling going on. Hopefully no unkind words will fly. Anyone else go through this and how do you cope?
Post # 3
Luckily, I am not going through this as drastically as you are. My advice is just to not worry and go in tomorrow with a positive attitude. They will be there celebrating you and your Fiance so the topic of conversation can be centered on you guys. Obviously it will be awkward at first, but who know’s it might hit off really well! It’s not like you guys will have huge gatherings like this after your wedding, right? (at least that is how it is with my family). Just try and relax and go in tomorrow with a smile.
Post # 4
I am having an intimiate wedding so i’m avoiding this problem, somewhat cause the wedding will just be parents, siblings, and nieces and nephews. However I am worried about my dad and his wife being around my fiance’s family. Fiance’s family are well off financially and well mannered. My dad and his wife dislike anyone with money, assumes they are snobs, and my dad and his wife are very much similiar to rednecks. I am quite embarrassed by them. My dad’s entire family are very redneck. So I can only imagine how much worse it would be if i would have a bigger wedding. My mom and inlaws have met eachother and get along great thankfully. My mom is not like my dad and his wife at all, and either am i. Most people are shocked when they find out who my dad is, cause i am absolutely nothing like him.
My stepmother i am very embarrassed by. She is loud, obnoxious, in your face, rude, and she gets offended over the slightest thing so i am always on edge around her watching what i say. Also the woman does not know how to dress for certain occasions. She wore a jean skirt and sandals to my grandmother’s funeral, and to my cousin’s formal wedding she wore a dress that looked like she could sleep in. I seriously almost asked her if she was going to get dressed for the wedding when i got to my dad’s house cause it looked like one of those house dresses you sleep in. It will be interesting to see what she wears for my wedding. I’m certainly giving her no tips. She can dress like a hillbilly for all i care and be embarrassed in front of my mom and inlaws who i know will dress nicely. I love when my dad’s wife is at more dressed up formal occasions cause you can tell how incredibly uncomfortable and out of place she feels.
Post # 5
i’m in the same boat as you. Our parents haven’t even met yet and i’m terrified for that day…my family tends to have a giant stick up their ass and think they’re better than everyone. His family tends to be a little more redneck. I feel like it’s going to be a shit show, but i’ll keep my fingers crossed that it all works out. I’m sure yours will be fine too!