Post # 1
I’ve decided that very soon, as in today or tomorrow, I have to talk to my boss about where I am in this company. I hate what I’m doing, it’s not providing me with the experience I need or was promised when I was hired, and is sucking my soul out from me.
I basically have to tell him that we need to figure out what to do asap because working call lines is making me miserable. Preferably that means going back to administrative work, but if it means I have to quit, then we need to arrange to have someone replace me. And if I stay on the phone line job, then I’m going back to school and looking for other work (not telling him I’d be looking for other work, though).
I’m really scared because I really have no idea what I’m doing. I just know I can’t do this anymore. It feels like it takes all my energy to make even one phone call and I no longer have the patience or stamina to put forth effort into keeping customers on the phone. But then if I do leave, I don’t have another job lined up so I wonder if I would be better off just being miserable at this job. But how much of my mental/emotional well-being is worth sacrificing? If I quit, my husband’s job would basically be just enough for us to scrape by.
I just feel totally lost in life right now and I feel like I’ve decided to go forward with school and negotiate whether to stay or quit this job because I can’t afford to remain still. Something has to change now; I just don’t know what it means for the future.
Post # 3
Just make sure you go into this positively, ok? No complaints. Gather up (even just in your head) any accomplishments and anything you have done to set yourself apart from the rest of the group. Show him why you need to move somewhere else in the organization, but do so coming from a good place!
Post # 4
What was promised you when you were hired?
I would go in with the promises that were made to you and ask that you two work on a plan to fulfill those promises.
This will demonstrate to them that you are proactive and interested in being successful there.
I would refrain from telling them how much you hate your current job for the time being because it wont really work in your favor. It is OK to saw, however, what job would be ideal for you in the current organization.
Post # 5
@ThreeMeers: I was going to steerhead an online store for our company. However, I don’t think that’s going to happen because of insufficient funds for our dept. The issue doesn’t seem to be that they won’t move me up, but that they can’t.
I really don’t see how I can move around this without admitting that I’m not happy. The reason I am where I am is partly because of staff problems – turnover has been crazy high already so I was going to fill in until things became stabilized and our online deal became approved, and I don’t see that happening because it was supposed to have occurred months ago. So part of it is that if I’m not on the phones, I’m not positive that there’s anywhere else to put me.
Post # 6
Oh, no! An unfulfilling job is definitely enough to drive a person crazy. I agree with the other PPs. Focus on what was promised and what has happened instead.
I’d suggest putting together a short document with what you were promised and when it was to happen (do you have that in writing from a supervisor?) with bullet points outlining your proposed job responsibilites; then also write what you’ve been doing instead, with a listing of your current job responsibilities in bullets. I’ve found that going in to these types of meetings with documentation really helps.
What would also be helpful are some suggestions on your part of how they could help you get the experience they promised.
Is there something happening at the company that’s preventing them from moving forward on their promise? A few creative suggestions/solutions of your own would show them your commitment to staying at the company.
Post # 7
@harleyq: So how about saying something like
“I was hired to do XYZ., but I can see the plan has to be changed due to XYZ circumstances. Given his new information I would really like to have/ XYZ job/task and I would like to figure out the best plan to get me there”
Post # 8
You could also approach it in that your skill set isn’t being efficiently used. If you were to have a different position with other responsibilities, it would not only benefit you, but the company as well.
Do you have an IDP (individual development plan) at your company? A lot of companies require employees to have one. If so, go in with that to help prove your case of where are you now and where you want to go.
Also, keep in mind that a good manager wants to help their employees succeed and move on. That shows that they are doing their job, too. Good luck!
Post # 9
If the issue is that there is no position to move you to I don’t really think the conversation will go well. It sucks to be in a crappy situation but I don’t think your boss will really be sympathetic to your feelings just because you’re unhappy (of course I’m basing this on personal experience and I don’t know how your boss is). If the conversation doesn’t go well are you secure enough that you’d be able to get by without a job?
Post # 10
@harleyq: Oh…I just saw your update. That complicates things that the job they promised you doesn’t exist. Are there other job openings available that don’t include what you’re doing now?
Post # 11
@MrsPinkPeony: I can probably get my old part time job back so I’m not too awfully worried about that but of course, I’d prefer to be working full time, and something that I know would offer security.
This whole mess is why I’m nervous because I realize that there are a lot of obstacles to navigate around, and I can’t just say “This isn’t what I need, and I want to be moved”
We just had a meeting and he was talking about setting sales goals and “selling the sizzle” over the phone, and enthusiasm, etc…things I feel I pretty much don’t have it in me to do anymore.